Arrg, life giveth with one hand and taketh away with the other..
Dp has an opportunity to take a job, its a fixed contract and comes with a load of benefits including a very good salary which could really set us up for life. Due to a combination of cocklodging ex partners, bad luck and poor financial decisions, I seriously doubt if we (particularly me) will ever me eligible for a mortgage in the future. With this job we could actually afford to buy somewhere and it could be a real investment in our future.
But. It's abroad and he will be away for up to a year.
I have virtually no friends, and no family in this area. Only a few of Dp's close family and friends. I will be almost completely alone here without him In all honesty, I think I'm too needy to be without him for such a long period of time, I've always hated the idea of being in a long distance relationship because I need that close contact with my significant other. Without it I think I will be very depressed.
Tbh I think I'll also be super jealous. The country the contract is in is somewhere I have always wanted to visit but apparently due to the nature of the work I won't be able to go with him. The idea of him having fun out there while I'm stuck here all alone is crushing me.
He says he would be doing it for us, so that we can pay for a beautiful wedding and a house for our long term future. I just think it's too much of a sacrifice and not a price I'm willing to pay. But I also don't want to hold him back! Will he hate me if I stop him from doing it? Wibu to tell/ask him not to take the job? Aibu to not let him do this temporarily so that we can have a better life in the future?
I'm just feel so gutted right now at the thought.
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sharkirasharkira · 27/04/2018 09:59
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