I go to visit an elderly couple, not family, I’m just helping them out with something. They are lovely, late eighties and I’ve known them around two months now seeing them at least once a week.
I was explaining about a health condition my children and I have. It’s rare but rarely fatal, causes mainly skin infections and abscesses and has landed all three of us in hospital at various times. I was talking about my six year old DD and the wife of the couple replied “Well she won’t be able to marry then.”
I was so amused and astonished that I didn’t know how to reply. All that was running through my head was: Why couldn’t she marry? Did people with mild (ish) health condition never marry in the past? Why would she want to get married? She’s six, why should this have crossed my mind?
All the while desperately trying not to laugh. Have you had any gems from the older generation that you just didn’t know how to react to?
V old fashioned. I'm guessing if you both have it, it might be sth genetic. My great aunt had a heart condition that meant pregnancy would've been dangerous for her so she never married because it wouldn't have been fair on her husband to not be able to have children. All very sad reallly, but I'm guessing this is what she meant by her comment
It harks back to a time where there were few opportunities for ‘middle class’ women to live independently. One would either marry, or be a maiden aunt caring for others. Marriage could be an important opportunity for a woman.
After the world wars there was a gender imbalance with more eligible women than men around so it was a ‘buyer’s market’ and if there was ‘something wrong with you’ you wouldn’t get picked.
This is the generation they and their parents came from and it would be quite a tragedy not to marry and by extension, not have children. It was like them commenting ‘oh she’s only got one leg!’ They we’re acknowledging something they saw as a handicap in life.
Love it! Sorry it has amused me too and I'm glad you see the funny side. I would have been tempted to carry on at their level - I know, it's so sad isn't it? Poor DD what a lonely life ahead, and me, I'll never be a grandmother, I don't know why we carry on really... !
My Nan to Dad's very overweight sister on hugging goodbye - Ooh, it's like hugging a big springy mattress.
I didn't know where to look, what to say, but she seemed to take it well .
"you don't look at the mantelpiece when you're stoking the fire!" What a cracker!!!! My gran once asked me to get her batteries. "You know, the durex ones"! Teehee! (I got her duracell just to be safe...!)