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Should adult children pay ‘rent’ if living with parents?

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Twist89 Mon 23-Apr-18 20:55:47

When I got a full time job and was living at home I was expected to give my parents money towards bills. Not a huge amount, and way less than I now spend in private renting.

But I’ve come across people who say their parents never made them do that, and others who say they don’t make their 20+ year old children pay anything. Some of these have kids living with them earning around £25k and they still pay nothing.

I find this quite shocking - AIBU?

FissionChips Mon 23-Apr-18 20:57:19

Those people can probably afford to not charge rent.

LovelySouffle Mon 23-Apr-18 20:57:22

Depends.

HTH.

YouTheCat Mon 23-Apr-18 20:57:41

My 23 year old pays me some money from her student finance. Once she gets a job, she'll pay some from her earnings and probably save most so she can buy a house. I can't afford to give her money for a deposit, so hopefully, this will help a bit.

ButchyRestingFace Mon 23-Apr-18 21:00:01

But I’ve come across people who say their parents never made them do that, and others who say they don’t make their 20+ year old children pay anything. Some of these have kids living with them earning around £25k and they still pay nothing.

I would expect a contribution towards utilities or the food shop. But if the parents can afford not to ask for rent - i.e., perhaps they've paid off the mortgage - then I can well understand not asking the kids for rent and telling them to save the money towards the cost of a house deposit instead.

Everyone's circumstances are different.

notacooldad Mon 23-Apr-18 21:00:42

We don't charge Ds1 "rent"
He's only on about £18,500 and 22
It's not like we are out of pocket with him being here.

BMW6 Mon 23-Apr-18 21:01:38

Yes, absolutely.
Children should be taught budgeting by their parents. Paying board is part of that valuable life skill.

Justanotherzombie Mon 23-Apr-18 21:02:23

I wouldn’t chatge my kids but I also wouldn’t expect them to be living at home at 25.

LVXiii Mon 23-Apr-18 21:04:06

I think if you don't have a mortgage and are basically just making a profit from your kids living with you, that's a bit crap. A contribution towards expenses would be different.

ItsASairFecht Mon 23-Apr-18 21:04:12

Yes, they should contribute. They won't get free rent, food etc anywhere else. Being a loving and supportive parent doesn't mean bankrolling your children indefinitely.

immortalmarble Mon 23-Apr-18 21:04:15

I wouldn’t want mine to pay rent, it’s their home.

Idontdowindows Mon 23-Apr-18 21:04:17

My mum did, but she put it all in a savings account for me. So I did the same for mine. smile

Waggingmyginger Mon 23-Apr-18 21:04:24

My parents did. They could afford not to, but they saw it as their responsibility for learning to live on my own.
They charged 50% of my take home wage up to market rate.

QueenofmyPrinces Mon 23-Apr-18 21:05:54

I used to know a guy who was 30, earned about £30k and still lived at home grin

I had to pay my dad rent even when I was a student at Uni.

My bursary was about £230 a month and £150 of it went to my dad. My dad earned well over £45k but saw no problem in taking money off me hmm

Ivgotasecretcanyoukeepit Mon 23-Apr-18 21:07:13

YABU. I couldn’t imagine ever charging my children to pay ‘rent’ in their family home. My parents never asked it of my siblings and I.

notacooldad Mon 23-Apr-18 21:07:14

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Yes, absolutely
Children should be taught budgeting by their parents. Paying board is part of that valuable life skill

There's plenty of ways to teach them budgeting apart from charging 'rent' There are plenty of life skills to learn and I think my lads have.(they are not children anymore but adults)
I don't need the money from them. As payback I have told them I'm not paying when im old and have to live with them!!!

BoxsetsAndPopcorn Mon 23-Apr-18 21:07:32

Mine won't pay rent either, they will always have a home with us.

It seems mercenary to charge children to live at home.

NewYearNewMe18 Mon 23-Apr-18 21:08:46

Is this thread on the back of the Daily Mail article last week which was n the back of multiple MN threads that week ?

notacooldad Mon 23-Apr-18 21:09:16

I take the view each family should do what works for them.

Ellapaella Mon 23-Apr-18 21:09:46

I wouldn't charge rent but would ask them to contribute towards food and bills.

Athrawes Mon 23-Apr-18 21:10:02

I wouldn’t charge actual rent, but would expect them to pay their share of food, utilities, cleaner etc.

ilovesooty Mon 23-Apr-18 21:11:05

I think they should make an appropriate contribution to food, utilities and chores.

wowfudge Mon 23-Apr-18 21:12:10

We paid a third of our wages once we were earning from full time employment. My parents didn't have to have me at home - it was their home they paid for after all. Once I had a stable job, I rented a flat with a friend. I wanted my freedom after having been away at uni for four years.

EmmaGrundyForPM Mon 23-Apr-18 21:12:11

We charged our 21 year old money to cover food/expenses. £45 per week. That included use of a car (insurance alone was £850 per year). He earns £23k per year. We felt that was fair.

livingontheedgeee Mon 23-Apr-18 21:12:48

It's not about the "rent", it's about respect for your parents.

If you are earning a decent salary and still live at home then you should contribute something.

I didn't pay a fixed amount to my parents for the time I lived at home in between jobs but I did buy the weekly food shop and make the majority of our meals.

I certainly wouldn't charge my child if they were a student or earning a pittance in a part-time job. My DD is away at university so I help her with finances but when she's home, she goes back to her part-time job and will always treat me to a nice meal or afternoon tea because she appreciates everything I do for her when she doesn't have any money.

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