Back to work in two weeks after almost a year of maternity leave. DD2 will be ten months when I go back. I know she’s my last one.
I’ve been phasing her into nursery (her older sister has been there since the same age and it has been wonderful) and it’s going well. She seems to like it. So childcare-wise I think we are set.
But I feel sick to my stomach this time round. I love being home for the girls and dedicating all of my time and energy to them. We have a good routine going. They eat well, I have energy and capacity to do fun stuff with them. I’m not stressed and snappy. Last time round I felt ready to go back but not this time. My career is full on, demanding and time consuming and while I won’t be working during time spent with the girls (every night at the kitchen table once they are asleep is the most likely scenario) it just won’t be the same.
DD2 is an absolute sweetheart. She’s hilarious and affectionate and so, so attached to me. I can’t bear the idea of leaving her in nursery three days per week (8-6 - unavoidably long days). She’ll wonder where I’ve gone.
There is no way I can not work. We have done the sums. Also if I leave my career it’s unlikely I’ll get back in in five years when they’re both at school - competitive and fast-moving area. DH keeps saying it’s really for the best and it’s better for me in the long run, he reckons I would be bored at home eventually, and what would I do once the girls are at school etc. I haven’t said much to him (because what’s the point, it won’t change anything) but I feel utterly cut up about it.
Can anyone relate? Can anyone make me feel better? 😞
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DrTorres · 22/04/2018 23:50
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