To feel like an ugly ducking in comparison to my friend ?

[betterputsomesuncscreenon]

Hi all,

Just feeling a bit down and need help in getting my confidence back up.

I went out last night, with one of my closest friends. We are both in our early 30's. In this particular night, well it happens all the time, we went out to club and all the guys/women will compliment my friend, give her free drinks, chat her up, be extra friendly towards her, whilst I'm just an imaginary person in the background.

My friend is pretty but when dressed up, she's looks very pretty. I just feel a bit silly to feel like this, I also think it's because I'm single right now and finding it a bit difficult to find a companion right now.

People throughout my life have commented that I'm attractive but I do have low self-esteem and I'm not happy about the way I look. It's like, in comparison my to friend, I'm the 'ugly' friend in the group. I don't get why I'm feeling like this ? My friend is so lovely and has been there for me. But I guess, nights like the one we had, bring back my insecurities about my looks.

How can I feel more confident ? I'm thinking of banning nights out altogether !

[AjasLipstick]

Forget about looks and begin to work on your self confidence OP.

What are you good at? Besides wanting a partner, what ambitions do you have?

I find that when I'm immersed in achieving things, then my self confidence rises.

[betterputsomesuncscreenon]

I’m an Architect and very good at my job. I just feel a bit bitter, jealous and down.

[Peachsnowpop]

I know only too well how this feels OP. I've been out with my group of girlies and I've been told by a bloke that I'm 'kinda pretty' (and said with a turned up noise by the bloke) while the others are getting chatted up galore, I always get told I look the oldest (I'm the youngest in the group). I feel ugly beyond ugly. Sorry OP this doesn't help but ur not alone. Hugs xx

[Jessikita]

Beauty is skin deep.