My in laws are from (and still live in another country) - low income place, different culture etc. Have always been financially supported by us - although BIL now has a very good business (but the business requires a lot of work from DH here for it to work).
My FIL has an smartphone but for some reason wanted a new one and asked for a specific big brand expensive one a couple of times. I’m not sure why - as he uses the old one - but I assume it doesn’t work in some way as he’s not very technical so I assume(d) it’s not just wanting the next thing.
I found him a refurbished one online from a reputable company - looked as good as new - and bought for £160. I set it up, installed all the apps etc and DH arranged for someone to take it over.
We asked a number of times if he was using it yet, but he hadn’t got new SIM yet, wanted to get a cover first etc and we stopped asking.
Anyway I asked yesterday if he was using yet and it turns out his other DIL (ie DH’s DB’s DW)’s smartphone broke and he gave her the new smartphone. She lives with them and in their culture is probably considered as close (maybe closer) than his actual daughters who live with their in laws - if that’s relevant.
So - AIBU to be a bit miffed that I went out of the way to get him something I thought he really wanted - and at not inconsiderable expense - for him to just give it away. My better side says I should be pleased that he’s generous enough to do this but I can’t help feeling it’s more for show over there - ‘look at me, my DIL got me this gift... and now look at me, I gave this gift to my other DIL’.
For what it’s worth, if DHs DB had asked him to get SIL a
phone and send it (they’re much more expensive there), we would have done so, and almost certainly not have taken the money for it in the end (although would have ordered on the basis that they would be paying for it).
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To be slightly miffed about what happened to a gift
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Tararaboomdieh · 22/04/2018 06:47
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