So I was made redundant this week. I (and everyone in the office) knew it was coming, but it has now been made formal.
I was the only one to be made redundant so it’s been really crap and horrible. But in times like this we really learn who our friends are. I have been there for years and didn’t even get a leaving present. When others leave they have received lots of things, but my colleagues didn’t bother.
They also went on a night out on my last day. This upset me as I feel they could have done that another time. AIBU?
No you're not being unreasonable. It's completely understandable that you feel agrieved. I think anyone would do. Also they could have invited you on their night out. Why are you the only one facing redundancy. Where you the last one.
@Awwlookatmybabyspider it’s a weird situation. My boss says I have a different job title to everyone else, even though what we did was pretty much the same in reality. I think the company just see it as an easy dismissal.
Nobody in my workplace buys colleagues leaving presents if they are made compulsory redundant. They do if they take VR or resign but not for CR. Not sure why, it just seems to be some unspoken and unexplained etiquette.
I would feel awkward buying someone who was leaving under compulsory redundancy a leaving gift actually. Almost like ‘sorry you lost your job... but these flowers make up for it!’ I don’t know. But if that was me, and we were friends; I would have looked at clubbing together to take you out for a meal instead.
Did you usually go out with them? Were you invited, or they kept it secret? Were you absent from your job a lot, or do less than them? Although friendly before your redundancy, they might have resented carrying the extra workload. Not saying that's true in your case at all. It happened in my last office. Or perhaps they found it awkward as a previous poster said. When the dust settles maybe you'll feel like they are friends again. But I'd let it go on the leaving gift... life is too short.