Total waste of space EXDH supposed to be having children tonight. Background, he's an abusive drunk, totally unreliable, spiralled into debt despite having no outgoings, sporadic working, no maintenance paid, living in his mum and dads spare room since split 18 months ago. We usually meet halfway to transfer children plus luggage over but he no longer has a car so has text me at 2pm (when he's supposed to be getting them at 4pm) that he has no access to a vehicle (he usually borrows his parents). That I will need to take the children to his and collect them again tomorrow, all at his convenience. Text no chance, but do I fuck the miles, fuel and time and do it for the kids or do I finally not enable his shitty behaviour to my children?
If he isn’t bothered then in your situation I think in principle it’s good to let them see enough of him that they understand who he is and what he’s like, but not enough that they get damaged or disrupted by the contact. Given it’s likely to be a sunny day tomorrow I wouldn’t want to spend all that time in the car for them to maybe sit in a pub yard when they get there?