I've NC'd for this and will try to keep it brief.
DP and I been together 3 years, his ex wife and he separated 4 years ago (NOT the other woman)
DP and his ex are going through the initial stages of divorce.(She wouldn't do it before two years separation)
I have stayed out of this as it's very much instigated by DP, he left her and it was not a 'bolt out the blue' by any means.
ExW and I have never really spoken, we have nothing really to do with each other.
Yesterday DP told me that he had messaged her asking if she had signed the initial divorce papers to which she replied;
' tell Basil I did it yesterday'
There was a bit more back and forth about it, (he did not pull her up on bringing my name into it in any way) and she then said:
'I can send Basil screenshots if she'd like? '
WTF???? I've never once messaged, spoke to, or even hinted at being involved in the divorce to her - why is she bringing my name into it??
The thing that hurts the most is DP didn't say anything in response.
It was just ignored, the messages just go from her saying these things to him asking practical questions about forms etc as if it never happened.
He said he was going to once the practical side of things was sorted and he'd spoken to me about it, but I can't help feeling the moment had passed.
I'm just hurt, not just that she bought me into it, but that DP didn't stand up for me.
I feel a bit used and alone. We had a discussion, which escalated into a row and now we're not really talking.
AIBU that this was unnecessary of her and that it would have been good if my DP put her right in a calm, mature way?
Any constructive advice would be so welcome at this point.
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AIBU?
To think this wasn't really necessary of the Ex Wife?
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BasilFaulty · 19/04/2018 10:48
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