Quick backstory, three kids (youngest 5months) together and married 9 years.
I found out the day before New Years that my husband was having an affair. He was away for work when our youngest was 4 weeks old for 5 nights a week and this was how it started. He opened up and said he had switched off from our marriage, that he had lost the spark and felt I had pushed him away as I’d gained a lot of weight (pre and post pregbancy).
He recommitted to me and I decided to stay because I love him and felt we could make it work. I’ve lost the weight for myself and my health and things were seeming to be back on track however I found out he is still speaking with her and he swears it’s just as a friendship and makes me feel like I’m controlling him by asking for the contact to stop.
The last two weeks he has moved to a different room. He says it’s purely because he isn’t sleeping well and nothing else. It’s is absolutely killing me to sleep alone and I feel like I’m being punished. I keep questioning why he is still here as I feel like he really doesn’t want to be with me. He has always been stubborn and I am trying so hard to see things from his perspective.
Should I accept that he’s in a different room purely because of lack of sleep or is this a sign and I’m just trying to ignore it?
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Needstovent · 23/03/2018 11:31
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