Should I do this?

[bloodyfuckingnora]

Long story so please bare with me!

Oh I have also name changed as it may be outing!

So, partner of nearly 3 years lives in my home, contributes nothing financially apart from the odd food shop and does zero housework unless he has made a mess in the kitchen. He does all the cooking but this is his choice as tbh I’m not the greatest and have no interest in being therefore even if I did try he either wouldn’t eat it or moan about it the entire time whilst doing so.

He does work and has a ‘messy’ job (so fuck knows why he doesn’t contribute or where his money goes)
so his work wear is often hung in the porch or conservatory to dry out. I refuse it being put in the house because of how filthy it is! Because of this there is mud EVERYWHERE. I have asked him repeatedly to clean it which has clearly gone unheard because it is still in the same state.

Yesterday it all got too much and I basically lost my shit (lighthearted) but I did tell him to get out and to come back when he could clean up after himself. His mom picked him up and I have heard nothing since.

This is where I am wondering whether I am being unreasonable.... I’ve just noticed he still has my back door key (I think) so I have text him to ask him whether he has left it here or has it on him as I need it in the morning. He has chose to ignore me and I’m getting more annoyed by the minute. Would it be so bad to message bomb him with the app for my message to send to his phone 1000 times one after the other? I’m finding the thought quite amusing

[AnneLovesGilbert]

Yes!!! That would be insane.

If you’re hoping he’ll come back, what’s the problem with him having a key?

Also, don’t let him come back. He won’t change. You both know that.

[dudewhatthefork]

Honestly. I'd think you unhinged if you did that.


But I'd still do because I'm a petty cow

[bloodyfuckingnora]

Yes slightly insane! But I do really need the key in the morning! I’m having something delivered which does not fit through my front door. My ‘back’ door is the conservatory so it is the only way they will get it in.

I think I’m in a bit of a predicament aren’t I

[bloodyfuckingnora]

I am known as a petty cow at times ---- does this make it ok?

[Magratmakethetea]

Can you get hold of his mother at all and ask her for the key?

[bloodyfuckingnora]

Unfortunately no. We are not on speaking terms as her precious son can do no wrong! I do not have her number nor wish to have it 😁

[dudewhatthefork]

Of course it makes it ok text bomb the bastard

[MyKingdomForBrie]

I don’t think spamming him will work.. can you turn up on his mum’s doorstep?

[bloodyfuckingnora]

I think, if I’m not mistaken, I’ve just been given permission

I think turning up on her doorstep would cause more harm than good tbh. He’s known to be unreasonable at the best of times but I think that would just tip him over the edge unfortunately.

Text bombing on the other hand might be slightly unreasonable but harmless fun (for me) all the same

[FetchezLaVache]

Well, look at it this way - you're not going to get the key back, you're going to have to replace the lock and be massively inconvenienced when your delivery arrives tomorrow, so you may as well have the fun of pissing him off by text bombing him.

[mickeysminnie]

Why did you out up with him for 3 years??

[LexieLulu]

Didn't someone get charged for doing similar (obsessively texting)?

I might be wrong, I'm sure I read a mumsnet post where someone said their ex had them arrested?

[AjasLipstick]

What a wanker. Send the messages and if he fails to turn up with the key, sell something of his to pay for the locks being changed.

[bloodyfuckingnora]

Mickey good question! Blinded by love stupidity, maybe?

Oh Christ if you can get charged I may have to rethink my plan to annoy him

But thank you for your comments, I love how some of us can see the fun and evilness in a slightly unreasonable action

[DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops]

So you want to potentially piss off someone who has means to enter your house?

[ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo]

I didn’t know that was possible!! I remember years ago there were websites where you got X many free texts but it wasn’t form your number. my friend and I would torment our exes sending weird messages with cryptic clues to see if they could work out who it was

Anyway, OP, is there anywhere in the house he is likely to have left it if it’s there?

[Truthstar]

In the nicest possible way ...... Wise up.
You may just come up with a solution regarding your delivery.
He sounds like a dickhead, his mum isnt talking to you, but you do really seem as if you want to make contact.
Just forget him and get your lock changed. Much easier

[SpringNowPlease2018]

Wtaf