To have thrown the PS4 across the room.........

[HorridNastyMum]

Feel a mixture of relief and guilt that I did it.

It's beyond repair.

DS(16) is extremely upset.

Backstory is:

He has SN, has been homeschooled for 4 months due to behaviour issues and anxiety. He has become fixated on gaming and will not self regulate, accept time limits or let his brothers play without massive tantrums. When he loses a game he has outbursts of anger and swearing and he can be irritable as he was this afternoon with his younger brother - he slapped him.
He will refuse to leave the house and wants to game all day.

Thing is the PS4 is jointly owned with his twin who hardly gets a look in anyway.

DH is a bit as in 'we paid money for that'.

[Babyplaymat]

I'm not sure it sets the best example, when just removing it would probably have been better. However, I fully understand your frustration and need to get rid of it

[HorridNastyMum]

When it's removed, he will constantly harangue me to give it back, wearing me down. At least he can't do that anymore!

[KriticalSoul]

Yes you are.

Throwing things in temper is NEVER ok.. having had to deal with my DH picking up my belongings (and his) and launching them down the room or up the garden just because he's annoyed with them, I can tell you its abusive.. sorry, but it is.

Just because you're a parent and not his partner doesn't make it ok.

By all means confiscate it, but throwing it and breaking it? Completely out of fucking order.

[abbsisspartacus]

I feel your pain and I've considered doing the same to my son's laptop

[JennyOnAPlate]

Under the circumstances you describe I think yanbu. I suppose you could have put it on eBay and at least got some of your money back though!

[Bexter801]

Probably would have been better to take it off him,though I can totally relate to you getting annoyed....but What's done is done :) So now, I'd try purchase another one on the cheap(Facebook market or something),as his brothers shouldn't lose out,because of his behaviour

[Terfragette69]

Are they still £400?? Geez!

[InsomniacAnonymous]

I can't help wondering how you'd feel if your DH had done that and also what replies you would have here in that situation too. It's not fair on his younger brother. You did this in an outburst of anger did you?

[HorridNastyMum]

Enough hysteria Kritical! I don't generally throw things.

[MyRelationshipIsWeird]

Yes YABU. Throwing things in angre, especially things which belong to someone else, is an appalling way to behave. If a man had done this to something of his DW/DP's he would have been called controlling, aggressive and abusive. I certainly wouldn't have someone in my house who thought it was ok to throw anything around in anger, let alone expensive electrical items.

You need to apologise and replace it asap and learn better ways to deal with your anger/your DS's screen time.

[megletthesecond]

You aren't the first.

FWIW my DCs tablets are now long term confiscated. They wouldn't stick to agreed times and have huge tantrums when they're turned off. They wouldn't drink or use the toilet when using them either, then they'd moan they have stomach ache .

[megletthesecond]

Meant to post a pic.

[Curious2468]

Throwing it not a good example but setting rules and restrictions for it or removing it completely is sensible. We have a no PlayStation in the week rule here because it causes too many issues. Other devices don't seem to trigger it but the PlayStation effects my ASD daughters mood and behaviour hugely!

[Backscratchesforever]

I have two annoyingly obsessed gaming kids... I get it.

I probably wouldn’t have thrown it, I would have sold it and used the money to buy him educational resources.

[megletthesecond]

It won't work.

[KriticalSoul]

When you've had to duck a flying computer tower, come back and tell me its 'hysterical' to tell you throwing a ps4 is out of order.

[AimlesslyPurposeful]

Sounds like you reached the end of your tether. However, throwing it was akin to a tantrum and not a terribly sensible way to behave in front of your son.

Not helpful now but confiscating it for 48hrs every time your son played up when he used it would have been better.

It’s done now but it might be worth examining how you felt before your outburst so that you recognise when you’re reaching breaking point and walk away before you start throwing things.

[IWannaSeeHowItEnds]

You were wrong to do it. What are you going to do to compensate your other son, who owns half of it. He definitely won't get a look in now! You need to apologise for losing your shit, replace it for your other son and stop your child with sn playing with it, since he cannot cope with it.

[Greenyogagirl]

Yabu- put a time limit on so his twin gets a look in but you basically demonstrated that when you’re angry with someone you can destroy their property.
Also 4 months home ed is not long at all, you need to deschool which in most cases means gaming non stop for months on end!

[MyRelationshipIsWeird]

Did work Megle.

[DairyisClosed]

She's not being hysterical. Throwing is beyond unacceptable. You shouldn't have bought it in the first place but you did. Once you saw how it effected his behaviour you should have just thrown it out/given it away/sod it. No nerd to behave like a two year old.

[HorridNastyMum]

Confiscation put more pressure on me as he would constantly go on and on about giving it back to him (learning diffs).

No one had to duck Kritical.

[Greenyogagirl]

He’s been taken out of school for anxiety, he retreats to his safe space. You don’t think his safe space is appropriate so destroy his property and his trust in you. Now he has anxiety and no safe space.

[hereyougosuckmyassforensics]

Instead of resorting to somewhat of a tantrum yourself, couldn't you have confiscated it and then told them you broke it? You've just shown your kids it's OK to break things.