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To think having concussion is enough to stop me doing this

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Chocywockydodahhhhhh · 21/03/2018 08:22

Meant to be helping MIL today with a stall selling the things she sells. She asked me a few days ago as SIL was meant to be helping but found something better to do as always. I begrudgingly agreed as my MIL is not the sort to put herself out for anyone but I thought be the bigger person.
Yesterday I had a fit banged my head and was taken to A & E and was told I had concussion, was kept for observation for quite a few hours then sent home and told to rest. DH rang MiL last night and told her I can’t help.
This morning DH has dropped DS at school breakfast club then me at my Mums so I am not alone (she would normally come to me but she has a bad back). Just got a text from MiL saying she will be round to pick me up at half 9.
I got the text ten minutes after she knows DH would have usually left for work if he had not been dropping me at my mums.
DH told her last night I could not do it, She had form for ignoring stuff that does not suit her. so do I
A. Ignore and let her just come to our house, knock and find no one in (She does not have a key) plus ignore all phone calls.

B. Ring DH at work and let him know MIL has texted me and let him deal with it (he will be fuming) DHs office is very laid back and doubt this would not be an issue

C. Ring or text MIL myself, but if I do I will get the huge sob story of she has to do it on her own which she is perfectly capable of doing.

D. Let my Mum loose on her (she is scared of my mum)

My mum has helped me type this as I am a bit dizzy and sick, she wants the mumsnet jury to pick D but I think maybe for the sake of Inlaw relations...... Grin. Then again.......Grin

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MyBoysAndI · 21/03/2018 08:25

His mother let him deal with it. But if she continues then unleash your mum Grin

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MTBMummy · 21/03/2018 08:26

Can I just say I love your mum, and would happily adopt her if she needs another daughter.

I'd do part A & D, don't ignore the calls, but let your mum answer when MIL has showed up at your house and starts calling you to find out where you are - of course you're in no fit state to answer your phone Wink so your mum will need to do it

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LadySainsburySeal · 21/03/2018 08:26

You have concussion. You must rest. No two ways about it. Either your DH or your mum must make her realise you cannot do it. Then put your phone away and get the rest you need.

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Idontdowindows · 21/03/2018 08:27

Order of things: him, your mum.

REST!

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flowerslemonade · 21/03/2018 08:28

Unleash your mum on her :D

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Thebluedog · 21/03/2018 08:29

Leave it until she rings (prob when she’s at your house), and the let your Mum answer the phone/loose on her Grin

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angelopal · 21/03/2018 08:30

Do B though D is probably most tempting.

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ElizaDontlittle · 21/03/2018 08:30

Not just concussion, you're probably a bit post-ictal and the risk of a further fit wit the added stress is not insignificant.

So I agree with MTBMummy above - she knows not to come, let her waste her time at yours, and let your mum share a little common sense ahem with her.
Rest well Flowers

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Ginger1982 · 21/03/2018 08:31

Get DH to deal.

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Chocywockydodahhhhhh · 21/03/2018 08:37

Ok have rung DH and he was fuming and said he wound ring her but when I told him the possible plan with my Mum he laughed and said “let her knock, Let her ring and let your mum answer”
He said he would ring MIL and have words tonight after work. So that is the plan. I am going to have a nap on the sofa and my mum had taken charge of my phone.
My mum has a unique way of being nice with deadly undertones, she has
never used it on me but instead saves it for special cases.

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MTBMummy · 21/03/2018 08:41

Rest well - and I hope you feel better


...and pretty please can your mum come and update us on how the call went?

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Beetlebum1981 · 21/03/2018 08:45

Your mum sounds ace Grin

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PuppyMonkey · 21/03/2018 08:45

I thought for a minute your DH had just perhaps texted her last night and she might have missed it. But he RANG and spoke to her and she still does this? Unbelievable.

I know DH is dealing with it but I think it only fair you unleash your mum just in case TBH. Grin

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HildaZelda · 21/03/2018 08:46

E) All of the above. That should shut MIL up Grin
Hope you feel better soon. Your Mum sounds lovely by the way :)

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notapizzaeater · 21/03/2018 08:47

Hope you get some rest and your mum slaps her down, CF ....

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frasier · 21/03/2018 08:50

Why isn’t she calling and asking how you are? You were in a&e for goodness sake. Who ignores something like that?!

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Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 21/03/2018 08:53

Fgs Hmm. Say no, go to bed and stop playing stupid games.

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WheresTheHooferDoofer · 21/03/2018 09:22

Leave your mum to deal with MIL, and get some rest. Hope you feel better soon.

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steppemum · 21/03/2018 09:25

“let her knock, Let her ring and let your mum answer”

your dh is fab!

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Chocywockydodahhhhhh · 21/03/2018 18:09

Ok I am awake. Been flat out all day.
My MiL rang and my mum answered, before my mum could say anything she went into a rant about “where the hell am I come and answer the door”
My mum then spoke and said “Chocy has concussion of which I believe you are well aware after Mr Chocy ran you last night” she is on the sofa fast asleep and is not going anywhere”
My MIL then stuttered about a misunderstanding and put the phone down
Mr Chocy is ringing her tonight
Grin

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Puffycat · 21/03/2018 18:13

MIL has been told! Remove your mums leash, then have a nice lie down..........job done

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TimeIhadaNameChange · 21/03/2018 18:18

I LOVE your mum! Hope you’re feeling better.

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WineAndTiramisu · 21/03/2018 18:20

Brilliant! And definitely don't offer to help her again...

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Ginger1982 · 21/03/2018 18:37

Ooh, let us know what she says to DH!

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frasier · 21/03/2018 18:40

Did she say she hoped you were OK to your mum?

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