... or am I crazy ? (In law problems)

[Laurasdiary22]

My husbands family are pretty wild.

I have struggled with my relationship with them for many years and I don't generally struggle with other people so this has been very hard for me.
My DH works for his F and their relationship is very troubled .. my DH takes great pride in his work but his F is very critical of him. My two BIL also work for the family business and FIL loves them. My FIL has always talked very badly about my DH , to me and to other people. My DH is known as the black sheep of the family and it's a role he has become used to. This couldn't be further from the truth in my eyes , he's a great dad to our 5 kids (two of which aren't his ) and an excellent provider. We love him dearly.
I feel like this family will never understand why I love and protect DH so much ... they have always said negative things about him and he will never be good enough. My FIL is a typical narcissist. He tells people how him and my DH look like brothers as he is so young looking and he is full of self importance. He is cruel and Under handed and I have his card marked and he knows it. I used to ignore his behaviour to my DH but lately I have openly condemned it and now we are being treated like the outcasts.
My FIL has a alcoholic / drug taking girlfriend who has caused havoc in our family with suicide attempts , threesomes and accusing my FIL of assault and abuse. I'm not saying these accusations are untrue (I believe he is capable of it all) but her way of dealing with this is to ring the whole family when she drunk to inform us. We had enough of this 2 years ago and cut contact with them as a couple (my DH working with his F means we obviously can't cut contact totally ). We have always left the door open for FIL to see his grandchildren but now he choses not to. (We have a baby that he has seen perhaps 3 times - she's 4 mths)
I know this man is a total narcissist , he causes no end of heartache amongst his own kids and his own relationship and I'm running out of ways to deal with him. He adopts a very god like status amongst the family even though we all know he's pretty bad people still tend to do exactly what he asks as he's very charming and manipulative (being a millionaire also helps this along 🙄).
Am I right to avoid this man and his toxic relationship ? I don't want my kids around his circus like life but at times I feel they miss out because their cousins seem to get all the attention.
Am I doing my children a disservice by avoiding this man ?
(My DH doesn't care either way)

[Trailedanderror]

You’re not doing them a disservice. I’d look into moving far away too. Apart from the money, what does your DH get from working for his dad? It all sounds very toxic.

[Pfftkids]

Didn't you post this same thing a few days ago?

[Bazzle]

Why are you posting the same thing again?! I

[DaisyInTheChain]

This sounds absolutely awful, one redeeming factor is you being a loving wife and Mum to give DH normalcy in what could be a pretty grim situation.

You can choose your friends but not your family. I don't know what your DH does work wise, but would he be better say working elsewhere.

It must be emotional hell for him, I know there's perks to working for his family, but is it worth the rest.

[Laurasdiary22]

Sorry for repost. Had to reword.

[AgathaF]

Can your H find other work? You really need to break contact with these people, and the only way to do that effectively is for your husband to stop working for his dad. I would imagine that his role as employee to his father, given his father's personality, does absolutely nothing for your husband's self-esteem. He's probably find himself to be a happier and more confident person away from his family.