To dislike my mother the older I get

Spicylolly · 2018-03-19 23:11:10

Not nessecarily an 'AIBU' more a long overdue need to vent....Ill try and condense . Lovely house, middle class parents growing up.......Then suddenly my Mum asked me if she should stay with my Dad or leave and be happy. Seriously what choice does a 12 yr old have? I thought I'm all grown up and of course I'm happy to say ' do what you want mum, as long as you're happy' Cue the 12 yr old me feeling smug that I've made a grown up and fair decision. Skip 2 years on with a mother and a step father (who had an affair with mum hence the initial split) Who is a massive arsehole, lovely at first (aren't they always) then once in everyone's good books was basically a massive c*nt. Threw me about, lied about me to my mum blah blah. Loads of shit in between, change of schools, moving houses, bankruptcy. At 16 I has enough and left home, moved into a friend of friends bedsit... got a job but then went off the rails...lost said job, moved into a squat with a bad crowd but I never did anything majorly wrong, unlike the people I was hanging around with, I drank a lot but that was it. I sorted myself out about a year later, got my own flat, a job, eventually met someone wonderful. We've had 2 kids got married and have now been together 20 yrs. I've always been in contact with my Mum but the closer my daughter is getting to the age I left at, the more angry I'm getting with my her.....who on earth asks their 12 yr old wether they should divorce?! who lets their child move out at just 16 into a crap hole? The most annoying thing now is she is so high and mighty and loves dishing out advice to me now about my kids and her favourite thing is to tell me I was so difficult as a teenager and how I nearly gave her a breakdown. And recently she's starting telling my kids how naughty I was as a teenager. I seriously want to ask her 'wtf where you thinking?' but I'm stuck in a limbo of not wanting to say anything as she's nearly 70 now and what would be the point? It won't change anything, I'd probably feel better for about 5 minutes but then I would feel like an arsehole. I obviously need to get over this but as I said I'm getting more and more upset now my daughter is getting close to the age I left home. How do I suck it up without causing trouble I suppose my question is?

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^Thanks again for all the wonderful advice. Feeling so much happier now, mainly because I know I'm not being an idiot.
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