Family

[Purpleflower45]

Hi am new to this but need advice l.ve been married for 11 years to a lovely man my problem is his sisters only talks to him she never talks to me or asks how me or our kids are and when she and she makes it clear she only wants my husband to come and see her not me me and my husband have had many fights about it my husband says she's doing nothing wrong am I over reacting

[WorraLiberty]

It's hard to say really.

There's probably a reason why she doesn't like you but without knowing what it is, you can't really discuss it with her.

Could your husband speak to her and get to the bottom of it?

[ElderflowerWaterIsDelish]

After 11 years I don't think you are going to change his sister , whatever grudge she seems to have against you is probably ingrained...

If she wants to see your husband then that is OK, your husband should be allowed to see his family without feeling guilty or fearing it will cause any issue with you...

You could try asking your husband to invite her for coffee or lunch at your house/in town and don't tell her you are attending and then turn up and use it as an opportunity to spend some time with her with your husband to support you...maybe she just needs to spend time with you to change her mind...

Has your husband ever said why his sister is acting like this towards you?

[Allthebestnamesareused]

I am not sure your husband is a lovely man if he hasn't stood up for you in this situation. Perhaps suggest to him that you should go half of the time and he go alone the other half.

[whampiece]

This is not a problem. She doesn't like you. You can't make her want to interact with you, but you can get over it and accept that. Your husband is who your relationship is with, not her. I would t waste any more time thinking about it tbh.