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to not let my 9 year old wear make-up?

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biggirlknickers Sun 18-Mar-18 16:36:06

She's asked me a few times now, and I've said no. Not least because she doesn't have any make-up and she wants to use mine no way!!

Some of her friends have make up which she always puts on when she go to their houses. It makes me feel slightly uncomfortable to see her wearing it - a 9 year old with mascara on!

Anyway she's asked me if can she buy some for herself using money she has saved up, and I don't feel I can refuse as it's her money.

Do you let your 9 year olds wear make-up? Is it just at home or do you let them wear it out on special occasions? Where do you buy child appropriate make-up from?

ForeverHappyAndGrateful Sun 18-Mar-18 16:38:59

I don’t have a daughter but if I did I wouldn’t have an issue with her buying make-up (that’s what little girls do) but I would only allow her to wear it in the house.

Nottheduchessofcambridge Sun 18-Mar-18 16:39:18

It’s up to you, my DD9 wears a little bit of we are going somewhere nice. She just has boots 17 stuff. No foundation or powder, just a bit of blusher, eye shadow and lip gloss.

Eolian Sun 18-Mar-18 16:42:57

YANBU. I think it looks awful on little girls. My dd (age nearly 13) has still never once worn make-up except nail varnish. I'd let her wear a little bit now if she wanted, but I certainly wouldn't have done at 9.

lollipopjones Sun 18-Mar-18 16:45:01

My DD was given a children’s make up palette for her birthday. It’s only a bit of pale eye shadow and lip gloss and she likes to put a bit on for special occasions. I wouldn’t allow mascara though. That’s a bit much.

LEMtheoriginal Sun 18-Mar-18 16:45:59

9 is too young imo. My dd is 12 and has just started asking. I allow the tiniest smattering of pale eye shadow and a touch of mascara and lip balm not gloss. This has literally been for school disco and one other event.

lollipopjones Sun 18-Mar-18 16:46:00

She’s 8 by the way. Nearly 9.

cjferg Sun 18-Mar-18 16:46:37

If she's buying it I don't see how you can stop her.

Maybe you could teach her how to put it on subtly if the blush is too much, etc.?

Whydomypubeslooklikeanest Sun 18-Mar-18 16:48:25

I wasn't allowed make up at all until I bought my own aged 14 and I absolutely layered it on because my parents had been so strict about it.

I've let mine have lip gloss and eyeshadow and nail varnish etc from about 4 or 5 and they really aren't bothered about it at all and only remember about it and use it very occasionally.

I have no issue with young people trying out make up at all.

StickStickStickStick Sun 18-Mar-18 16:50:02

I don't like it at all , yet lots of the 9 year olds (low income area if it makes a difference) here do.

Aquamarine1029 Sun 18-Mar-18 16:51:59

Make up worn out of the house at NINE? No way. My daughter was allowed to play dress up at home at that age, of course, but wasn't allowed to wear it out until 12, and even then, only natural looking lip gloss was allowed. Around 13/14 she started using other products lightly. Thankfully, she has always embraced the natural look.

mintich Sun 18-Mar-18 16:52:29

I had child's make up at that age, clear lip gloss, clear mascara etc . When I was 12 and wanted real make up, my mum took me to a make up counter for a lesson in natural make up!

lilydaisyrose Sun 18-Mar-18 16:53:58

My 10 year old experiments with make up at the weekend (never to school) - doesn't bother me.

Nocabbageinmyeye Sun 18-Mar-18 16:54:03

I allowed a little at home to practice with at 9, not outside the house though. Dd is 12 now and only now do I allow a little outside but not foundation and only on special occasions. I am happy for her to buy out of her own money though

PrincessHairyMclary Sun 18-Mar-18 16:57:19

DD is 8 she has lots of different types of make up (eye and lip colour towers not mascara etc) but it's for play at home and isn't worn outside. She doesn't watch YouTube tutorials or anything like that and she likes putting it on me. She loved using face paints and used to spend hours doing her own designs but it's a nightmare to get off the carpet or any of the other million places she managed to get it.

Eliza9917 Sun 18-Mar-18 17:03:23

No kids here yet but I wouldn't let a 9yo wear make up.

Maybe a bit of kids lip gloss & nail varnish but not proper make up, and I would tell them that they can't spend their money on it either.

Merryfeckingchristmas Sun 18-Mar-18 17:03:31

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

alfagirl73 Sun 18-Mar-18 17:06:46

Why not let her get some very natural looking simple make-up and have a mum-daughter girlie day. Show her how to wear it. Thinking some pale simple eye shadow, clear mascara (gives the definition without layering on black), nude / natural lip gloss, perhaps a tiny touch of blusher... teach her about "less is more" and make it a bonding thing rather than a battle. She's happy because she gets to buy some make-up, you're happy because you get to have some control over it and you both have a nice day.

speakout Sun 18-Mar-18 17:08:37

I think the more you resist then the more alluring it will be.

OP do you wear make up?

My DD is a dancer, so has worn stage make up from 5 years or so.

AlishaMary Sun 18-Mar-18 17:10:00

If she's buying it I don't see how you can stop her.

Really? As a parent you have no control over what a nine year old buys with their own money?

Op I don’t allow my nine year old to wear (or buy) make up apart from nail varnish. But the amount of her classmates with full eye makeup and bright red lips at the recent school disco show me that I’m very much in the minority.

If you want to compromise then do as a pp suggests and let her buy it do wear at home only.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties Sun 18-Mar-18 17:10:28

If she's buying it I don't see how you can stop her
Completely disagree. You act as any parent of a 9 year-old by setting rules for her and consequences if she ignores them.
I think you could reach a compromise with her, for example pale lip gloss and clear mascara? And set out occasions when she is allowed to wear it such as parties or whatever.

jadebryce Sun 18-Mar-18 17:10:28

I'd say just a little like lip gloss and a little bit of mascara, just cheep stuff disencourage her about foundation etc as it will wreck her skin

Whatdoiladymcbeth Sun 18-Mar-18 17:10:52

Maybe you could compromise and buy her fun make up? Stuff like glittery eye shadow, face stickers etc that she can use to play around with at home.

speakout Sun 18-Mar-18 17:13:50

Face paints?

FranticallyPeaceful Sun 18-Mar-18 17:14:43

I know one friend who was allowed makeup this early and she was always trying to do things older girls did. She slept around constantly from a young age and ended up pregnant at 15.
I doubt the makeup caused it, more of a wanting to do older girl things complex... but it certainly put me off the idea of giving my kids makeup at an early age!

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