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Would I know if I'd been raped? So anxious please help

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Sofuckingstupiddespair Sun 18-Mar-18 12:48:53

I got really drunk last night I don't know what happened. I don't really remember leaving my friends just vaguely, they were going home, I got confused and didn't know where I was. Ended up walking around the quiet streets for hours by myself I don't remember all this clearly just bits.

Could I have been raped and not know? I'm lying in bed shaking I'm so scared. I don't know how this happened. One minute I was fine, next really really drunk.

I've lost about £20 I think and don't know how this happened so maybe someone stole it or maybe I just lost it but if someone took it I don't remember and what if I was raped? What if I have a std?

Sofuckingstupiddespair Sun 18-Mar-18 12:50:03

Really panicking. Everything is terrifying me.

Yarboosucks Sun 18-Mar-18 12:51:14

Do your feel sore anywhere? Are your clothes clean?

jjmc0616 Sun 18-Mar-18 12:51:14

Take your self to nearest hospital or walk in centre. Don't be scared to tell them what happened. They will possible run some tests to check for things. I you can and are super worried take the clothes your wore last night in a bag.

Halebeke425 Sun 18-Mar-18 12:52:57

I assume you woke up at home? You have no recollection of getting there? It's not unusual to black out when drunk but it can be scary afterwards not knowing what's happened. I'm sorry your friends left you and you were wandering around alone that is a very dangerous situation to be in! What makes you think you may have been raped?

Sofuckingstupiddespair Sun 18-Mar-18 12:53:30

I'm not sore. I just can't remember clearly and can't stop crying.

Yarboosucks Sun 18-Mar-18 12:53:48

If you have no memories, then on the balance of probability you were probably not raped, the world is mad but not as mad as so much of the media would like us to think.

Yarboosucks Sun 18-Mar-18 12:54:27

Could someone have slipped you something?

Sofuckingstupiddespair Sun 18-Mar-18 12:54:35

Friends drunk too, I don't think they knew how bad I was so just assumed I'd go home fine.

Sofuckingstupiddespair Sun 18-Mar-18 12:55:15

I don't think I was drugged, no.

BarbarianMum Sun 18-Mar-18 12:56:32

Do you feel or smell (sorry) as though you've had sex? Are you sore? How much did you drink - enough to get really drunk or just a bit? Mixers? Who were you with last night - group of female friends or a mixed group? Could you ask one if them what went on?

Yarboosucks Sun 18-Mar-18 12:57:07

Have you looked at your clothing from last night?

BarbarianMum Sun 18-Mar-18 12:57:26

Sorry. Didn't mean to bombard you with questions. blush

Happygolucky009 Sun 18-Mar-18 12:59:19

I don't want to read and run. Find out of your friends for home safe and sound, can they provide any reassurance? Review your night, did you drink excessively, leave a drink unattended or simply not covered a drink (spiked?)

If you have any doubts that you could have been attacked, you need to contact the police

specialsubject Sun 18-Mar-18 12:59:41

Get to a walk in centre and get checked - don't drive there of course.

You've had too much of something, may be just alcohol but get seen. Spiked drink?

Worry about the lesson learned afterwards.

Before the mm oversensitivity brigade go nuts, I am not saying that drugged or drunk deserves rape . and I certainly hope that the op was not attacked.

Yarboosucks Sun 18-Mar-18 13:00:22

You could be crying because you were upset when you went to sleep, as well as the fact that alcohol is a depressant - not because some trauma happened. Of course, getting lost in the cold when drunk of fairly bloody upsetting!

Sofuckingstupiddespair Sun 18-Mar-18 13:00:42

I had three pints of beer before I met them with other friends. Then had two glasses of wine and then don't remember but I assume I drank more.

I don't feel like I had sex I just feel really threatened and can't tell if it's anxiety or if it means something awful happened.

Still wearing the underwear I had on I've not been in the shower yet.

I'm so scared I think I'm losing the plot.

Mrsemcgregor Sun 18-Mar-18 13:01:42

Try to relax, stranger rape is incredibly rare.

You could go to your local A&E and tell them your worries and they will examine you.

Or you could go to your local sexual health centre during the week and ask for an STD check.

The bitterly cold weather would have increased the affects of the alcohol and could have made you more drunk than you would usually be.

You poor thing flowers

Yarboosucks Sun 18-Mar-18 13:02:48

Do you live alone?

Sofuckingstupiddespair Sun 18-Mar-18 13:02:50

Friend is at work so I can try to ask her what drinks I got later.

Happygolucky009 Sun 18-Mar-18 13:05:10

I would get yourself checked if for no other reason than to rule it out flowers

villamariavintrapp Sun 18-Mar-18 13:07:10

I'm sorry this happened, but I don't think A&E would (or should) examine you to see if you had sex last night. Best thing to do would be to get yourself checked out for STDs soon just in case. But it's unlikely, and if you can't remember it then there's really nothing you could do about it now anyway.

3boysandabump Sun 18-Mar-18 13:08:01

I think you would be able to tell if you'd been raped. I could definitely tell if I'd had sex even if I couldn't remember. As for the crying part round here we call that beer fear. You're shaken because you completely blacked out and it's scary to have a chunk of time you can't recollect.

Theshittyendofthestick Sun 18-Mar-18 13:08:15

Being cold, alone and scared is enough in itself to make you feel anxious and recovering from being very drunk can also make you feel quite paranoid.
What would you like to do next? If you think you might have been raped or want to talk it through you could contact rape crisis and work out what to do next.
Take care of yourself flowers

lecossaise Sun 18-Mar-18 13:08:29

It sounds like an extreme case of hangover angst. Not remembering is a horrible feeling, but I think if you remember snippets then it's unlikely anything awful happened.

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