Hi, sorry this is going to sound like a bit of a pity party but wondering if I'm right. Think I might be a bit depressed, dont want to go back on meds cause I still haven't got together to lose the weight from last time. Thinking of trying a Seretonic suppment from HB instead. Anyway so as not to dripfeed, here goes.
We have had a dificult few years, 4 years ago a very close friend of mine died suddently, 3 years ago my MIL died suddenly, 16 years ago (this week) my Mum died, my Dad is in a v difficult relationship with a woman who hates me and probably has dementia, he is 79. My oldest Son has anxiety issues because of the deaths and situation with my Dad, he is getting extra support at school and we have been referred to CAHMS. Two years ago I had a horrible work situation which wrecked my confidence and I ended up in a bit of a state, on ADs for a while. I dont feel as if I have the courage to work in an office ever again and I am self-employed. The fee for my main job has just been cut (nothing to do with my work) and I worry a lot about future finances. I work as hard as I can, I have recently set up a blog and work as much as I can with that and my self employed work around my kids to contribute as much as I can to our household. We may be moving house, our buyer is holding things up at the moment, as we need more room and it is important to my DH to have a nice house, he is a train driver and works shifts.
Unfortunately a lot of the people we know including family are very comfortable financially, which I am aware skews my perception of everything. My pension post isnt worth very much which really worries me and I worry that we are not going to be able to help our kids get through uni, buy houses etc when the time comes. I feel as if I am letting them down as we cannot afford to go on holiday every year, whereas my nephews go on a trip after trip with school, sorry I know comparison is the thief of joy. I just feel as if I am letting my kids down and worried about being piss poor when I am older. Consider others options but the sacrifices are too much, ie where we live my DH has work as do I, it is very easy to get around, schools are good, our friends are like family, we dont have any family locally.
Its just occurred to me that if I just accepted that I cannot give the boys much, accepted that we cannot go on many holidays rather than having lots of aspirations, accepted that I am never going to earn very much and will always be living more or less hand to mouth rather than doing well that I could be happier. Also maybe I should just accept being a stone heavier than I should be, rather than torturing myself about not looking how I used to look and failing to do anything about it. I know a few people who lead simpler lives and haven't had high aspirations with jobs or travel and they seem happier. Can anyone else relate to this. Sorry if it sounds a bit garbled.
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Octopus37 · 17/03/2018 20:18
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