To HATE my mother kissing my baby

[yadayadayesokay]

My DD is 3 months old. I didn’t think I would have a problem with people kissing her and I generally don’t. We have had the usual large amount of visitors to come and meet and of course hold and kiss my DD. Not a problem whatsoever. But then it comes to my mother and I just can’t stand it. She doesn’t just kiss her a couple of times like other people, she will SMOTHER her in kisses constantly, all over. Hair, head, forehead, cheeks, nose, hands (which I particularly hate because they go straight in her mouth) opens up her onesie to blow raspberries on her belly, ‘eats’ her feet. I know there’s nothing out of the ordinary here but for me it’s just the amount that she does it. The kissing her all over her face all the time is how myself and my DP kiss her, as she’s our baby! I just wish she would calm down a bit. I suspect most others wouldn’t have a problem with this. AIBU?

[Troels]

YABU unless she smokes or is drunk. She loves the baby, how wonderful for your child to have that. Stop picking fault.

[Sparklesocks]

You are a bit, people kiss babies - its pretty standard. The exceptions would be if she was sick, drunk or smoking.

It’s also a good way to help boost baby’s immune system.

[x2boys]

She's being a grandparent , but at that age I smothered my babies with kisses I still do tbh and they are 11 and 7 .

[Birdsgottafly]

I personally think that if you are sexually active, dating etc, then you shouldn't be kissing a baby in the way that you describe. If she is celibate/with your Dad then leave her to it.

I think the same even when it comes to the Parents.

[Bluelady]

She's her granny. That's what grannies do.

[LayerShortOfALasagne]

@birdsgottafly

[hidinginthenightgarden]

I do this to my kids. My eldest is 5 and I do it until he asks me to stop.
I don't see the problem.

[IanRushesInadequateFlushes]

I wouldn't like anyone kissing my baby on the mouth. I find it very weird when people do that.

Otherwise - maybe ask her to tone it down, but please be gentle and remember how lucky you are to have a lovely baby AND a loving mother. My DC will only ever know their grandma's headstone and it absolutely sucks

[user1490607838]

No, STOP her from kissing her, FFS! Especially all over her face!

Show her this!

edition.cnn.com/2017/07/18/health/baby-dies-of-meningitis-from-herpes-virus/index.html

[alltopot]

Sorry BIRDS but that is bonkers

[AddictiveCereal]

I wouldn't like that either. The baby would be kind of covered in saliva. Yuck.

[stitchglitched]

I was ready to say YABU from your title but on reading I don't think you are actually. I wouldn't like anyone else slobbering over my baby to that extent. I'd need to give her a bath afterwards!

[sourpatchkid]

User - that's very rare and OP doesn't say mum has a cold sore so I'm not sure it's helpful or relevant?

oP do you have a good relationship with your mum?

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

I would be a bit weirded out by it but I’m a bit odd when it comes to other people’s baby’s

[Whiterabbitears]

YABU she's being a loving nan! Nothing wrong with that. I would have thought you would be pleased your mum loves your DC so much?

[TammySwansonTwo]

Sorry, but all I think is how lucky your baby is to have a grandparent who loves them so much. My mum died shortly before I got pregnant. My twins only have one grandparent, who’s seen them three times in 18 months. I would love them to have a loving grandparent.

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

How the hell did you survive OP what with all the kissing she did on you. She’s your MUM. Give her a break.

😀

[x2boys]

I'm.always kissing my kids and telling them how much I love them ds1 is 11 but still shouts down the stairs he loves me on a regular basis..

[MadRainbow]

This kind of possessive jealousy makes me so sad - surely you want your child to be loved by other people as much as you love them?

This is what GPs do, my DM is exactly the same. If said person had a cold/sickness I would be asking them to recover before they came in my house let alone near the baby. If they had a cold sore I would ask them to refrain from kisses at all and ask them to wash their hands thoroughly first.

[BakedBeans47]

I think you are a bit U. My boys were permanently covered in lipstick marks and smelled of my mum’s perfume when they were babies

[user1490607838]

@MadRainbow

It's not 'possessive jealousy' to not want someone's slobber all over your fucking baby FFS! Get a grip woman!

I would tell her belt up. It's fucking weird!

[Andmary]

YANBU! I hated my mother dribbling all over mine too. My mum had cold sores every winter and she fucking kissed my DD & gave her the herpes virus. I told her repeatedly not to. I was furious with her. All that kissing and saying she could bite her bum turned my stomach. In the end we told her calm down or leave. She left in a huff but did tone it down from then on.

[yadayadayesokay]

I do appreciate that she loves my DD very much which is why I’ve been biting my tongue. But can I just reiterate that it’s constant and so much that my DB even joked ‘put her down mum, she’s a baby not a lollipop’. I do feel like she’s covered in saliva after every visit and I have to wipe her down afterwards! And we live on the same street so we see her several times a day. I’m glad that my DM loves her so much but my DPs mum loves her just as much and she doesn’t do this when she visits, even though she sees her much less often - she does kiss her but an ordinary amount which like I say doesn’t bother me at all.

[TalkinBoutWhat]

Your DB is awesome!

[crunchymint]

She does this because she loves your baby in a way other visitors don't. And the baby is her grandchild.