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Was I wrong to tell her to stay away?

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Byebyebye Sat 17-Mar-18 13:55:48

So on Thursday I come in and see my colleague in early. She’s never in early so I was surprised. She then left at 10 as she didn’t feel well.

Turns out she woke up with vomiting and diarrhea so that’s why she was in early. Why do people come into work sick??? We get paid full pay whilst off sick so she wouldn’t have lost money, we’re ahead in work so it wouldn’t have mattered if she wasn’t in and I know she hasn’t taken any other sick days so she wouldn’t have got into trouble.

Next day she’s in!!! Our boss isn’t as they’ve caught her sickness and my other colleague vomited whilst driving - this colleague just got back to work this week having recovered from cancer treatment.

Anyway over she trots to me saying can you just look at this for me. I said sorry can you please stay away from me I don’t want to get sick.

Apparently she’s upset 🤷🏼‍♀️

Was I in the wrong?

RoseWhiteTips Sat 17-Mar-18 13:57:45

You were very rude. I would not utter such words.

AtrociousCircumstance Sat 17-Mar-18 13:58:58

You’ve a got a point.

MerryShitmas Sat 17-Mar-18 13:59:22

Banishing her to her own section/corner isn't going to stop you getting sick, saying what you said was rude.

Greenyogagirl Sat 17-Mar-18 13:59:45

Wow you were a bit harsh!
Maybe she thought it was food poisoning and not something contagious

Nanny0gg Sat 17-Mar-18 14:00:34

48 hours clear.

She was very thoughtless and if upset- tough!

CoalitionOfChaos Sat 17-Mar-18 14:02:22

No you had every right to say that, she should have stayed at home. Very selfish.

BaldricksTrousers Sat 17-Mar-18 14:04:33

She shouldn't have come in as she had no way of knowing what type of bug she had (food sickness or d&v or the myriad of other reasons she could be ill. But yabu for assuming that your boss caught her bug as your boss is likely to have picked it up anywhere. If you were concerned you should have just washed your hands. Seriously anything you touch in public is just as likely to get you sick.

She also might have an underlying health/medicine issue that causes that sort of reaction but she knows it's not contagious.

Nocabbageinmyeye Sat 17-Mar-18 14:04:42

Yeah op was the rude one confused yanbu op

Graphista Sat 17-Mar-18 14:10:03

Steering clear DOES make sense as most things that cause d&v are droplet spread.

Food poisoning IS infectious.

She was bloody selfish ESPECIALLY in regard to your colleague recently treated for cancer, what was she thinking?!

Yanbu at all.

FissionChips Sat 17-Mar-18 14:11:35


BaldricksTrousers Sat 17-Mar-18 14:13:55

Like I said, it is possible that the person has a medical condition or takes medication that causes that sort of reaction. Which would explain why she came in as she would know it's not contagious. I have IBS and have diarrhoea a lot; I also take a lot of medication which can make me nauseous. None of that is contagious!

Jassmells Sat 17-Mar-18 14:19:25

YANBU. Good for you. People are so silly.

Byebyebye Sat 17-Mar-18 14:24:10


I very much doubt she has anything like IBS, on Thursday she was back and forwards to the toilet and visibly looked sick - pale but hot cheeks, sweaty and weak.

I was annoyed because the only reason she was asking me for help was because she took out the two people who’s job it is to help her and she didn’t even need to come to my desk for the help.

MrsMozart Sat 17-Mar-18 14:24:12

YANBU. Doesn't your company handbook have something about staying away if v & d?

JaneEyre70 Sat 17-Mar-18 14:38:42

You were far politer than I'd have been OP.

feathermucker Sat 17-Mar-18 14:43:08


I'd have said the same. What the he'll was she doing in, especially as you get paid whilst I'll and she's not got a sickness record.

Greenyogagirl Sat 17-Mar-18 14:43:52

Haha irrelevent but ‘she took them out’ made me chuckle

ChasedByBees Sat 17-Mar-18 14:44:30

I don’t think you were rude at all. YANBU.

Allthewaves Sat 17-Mar-18 14:47:27

Was she being pressured for deadlines? Has she not been there long? Most people wouldn't drag themselves in in the get full wage sick pay.

Billben Sat 17-Mar-18 14:49:06

I would have asked her to stay away from me as well. And I’m not known for sugarcoating my words either.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha Sat 17-Mar-18 15:00:25

I wouldn't have let her within 10 paces of me.

In my workplace we have some plastic cones which we deploy around anyone who's not well. Stigmatising perhaps, but serves a purpose.

Byebyebye Sat 17-Mar-18 15:04:53


Not to out what I do but we work on applications rather than projects that have deadlines. Our targets are to work on applications within 4 weeks of receiving them, we’re currently working on applications we received that week so really up to date so no pressure.

I’ve worked there two years and I think she’s worked there about twelve so why she needed my help I don’t know.

She has in the past displayed some behaviour that I would consider attention seeking so that would be my guess why she’s in.

MoodyTwo Sat 17-Mar-18 15:09:50

Are you sure she isn't pregnant and just doesn't want to tell anyone as it's early days? It would explain her being upset at you being rude.

Cantusethatname Sat 17-Mar-18 15:15:58

She's very selfish to come in and you were completely right to say what you did.

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