Sorry this is long I’m trying to give as much info so I’m not drip feeding.
My parents are comfortable, own their own home and spend money on lots of nice things for themselves including holidays etc. which is fair enough they work hard.
My sister lives with them, she pays board money to live there (quite a lot actually). She is training at the moment so this money includes food and bills as she doesn’t have much left over. What she does have she’s trying to save to move out as she is pregnant.
I’ve not lived at home since I was a teenager and I now live with my own children including one who is a teenager himself. I moved out young as I couldnt stand how tight and controlling my parents can be.
I feel bad for my sister as my parents will not buy her food she needs to stay healthy for the baby. They just buy frozen ready meals and dispite her asking, no vegetables, drinks or meat (her iron levels are low). She’s spending extra on food but really can’t afford it and is getting down about it all. She’s even borrowing money off her boyfriend to buy lunches.
Should I say something to my mum and Dad? I feel like I should as she’s a lot younger than me (22 and I’m in my late 30s). This is my nephew or niece and I feel they should give more of a shit as it’s their grandchild.
She’s tried talking to them but they just tell her to move out then.
Aibu to get involved?
AIBU?
Say something in behalf of my pregnant sister?
Numberonecook · 16/03/2018 15:18
I don’t think they will change either 
that’s why I don’t know if it’s worth me saying anything.
She really can’t afford to move out at the moment I don’t think as she needs a save a bit more first. But it’s looking like her only option tbh.
Her boyfriend lives with his parents and has small step siblings so there really isn’t much room, especially with a baby on the way.
I think they could be financially abusing her. They take a lot of her money and are quite controlling at times even though they don’t really need the money themselves. I could get it a bit more if they were struggling.
I suggested she buys her own food but she says they just eat it 
. She bought some bits last week and my dad took it to work for his lunch!
If she moved out with her boyfriend I think they could just about manage but it would be very tight. I told her that’s how we started and got no help and we survived. Think it’s a big leap for her as she’s the youngest sibling so moving out is a bit scary for her. I’m just glad I wasn’t pregnant until after I left lol
I’m going to talk to my brother and see what he thinks. Another poor sod they fleeced for cash before he’d had enough lol
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