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To make a complaint about someone I find creepy

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Forgottencoffee Wed 14-Mar-18 08:54:09

Or WIBU, rather.

It's a gym instructor.

Ordinarily, the gym instructors hang around in the office attached to the gym (with the doors open) or walk around cleaning the equipment. This guy however, hangs around empty equipment staring at women people or hanging around their machines making small talk. He doesn't seem to be offering any advice or encouragement to those he leers at speaks to and they don't seem to respond much to him.

The next bit would form the main part of my complaint:
I went a few days ago and he was sat side saddle on one of the spin bikes chatting to a woman (who was chatting back, texting and 'spinning' at a snails pace). I like to incorporate the bikes in to my workout but as there are only two, I was unable to.

I usually end up leaving the gym early because I just find it so uncomfortable when he's there and unfortunately there are no other gyms nearby or really any other times I could visit.

Would I be unreasonable to make a(n anonymous) complaint about his conduct?

snash12 Wed 14-Mar-18 08:55:53

I'm not sure you can complain about him talking to a woman whilst she was half heartedly spinning. Could you not have asked him to move so you could use the second bike?

mumonashoestring Wed 14-Mar-18 08:56:28

Did you ask him to move off the spin bike?

scurryfunge Wed 14-Mar-18 08:56:38

Why didn’t you ask him to move at the time?

TheHulksPurplePants Wed 14-Mar-18 08:58:33

Why not ask him to move?

DannyLaRuesBestFrock Wed 14-Mar-18 09:03:07

How did he know you wanted to use the bike?

You want to complain because he never read your mind?

He might give you the creeps, but I don't see that you have grounds to complain sorry.

Percypig5 Wed 14-Mar-18 09:04:14

I work in a gym and we are not supposed to hang around in the office (though most do) and are meant to be on the gym floor engaging with/helping members. Definitely shouldn’t be sitting on the machines though - did he clock that you wanted the bike?

Lifeisabeach09 Wed 14-Mar-18 09:07:08

Doesn't seem much you can complain about. Sitting on gym equipment, looking at gym goers. All seems trivial at the moment.

TheRebel Wed 14-Mar-18 09:07:17

I’d say something, if he’s making you uncomfortable then he’s probably making other women uncomfortable too, except women are socialised not to say anything and be polite.

BusterTheBulldog Wed 14-Mar-18 09:07:39

Did he refuse to move when you asked? If not, I don’t think you can complain.

thismeansnothing Wed 14-Mar-18 09:07:42

When I worked in a gym we weren't allowed to be hanging around the office or stood at the main desk. We had to be cleaning/chatting to members. On the kit next to them or stood. It didn't have to be flogging 1:1 sessions, it was allowed to just be small talk. It's customer retention and we were targeted on how many people we'd interacted with in each shift. You could have just asked him if you could use the kit he was sat on. It would be u reasonable to complain

TIRFandProud Wed 14-Mar-18 09:12:05

Did you ask him to move?

You come across as childish, petty and cowardly.

He was having a conversation (that's what it's called when one person speaks and another chats back) and a little thoughtless to take up the machine but unless you asked him to move and he refused then you're acting like a dickhead.

Sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder about the 'oppressive sex'.

Why use such misandrist terms as "creepy" and "leer"?

cucaracha Wed 14-Mar-18 09:14:36

Ask him to move next time. There should be an instructor "hanging around" in the gym, ready to help out people, correct their bad postures and just be seen!

NewYearNewMe18 Wed 14-Mar-18 09:16:39

Would I be unreasonable to make a(n anonymous) complaint about his conduct?

Why are you so spineless and cannot discuss this with the management ?

Couchpotato3 Wed 14-Mar-18 09:17:28

I don't think you have much to complain about (yet). Why not ask him to move if he gets in your way again, and engage him in some chat yourself to see what he comes up with - ask him for some help with equipment or advice?

On the face of it, it sounds as though he is just doing his job - chatting to customers etc. If you are uncomfortable with speaking to him, that is your problem, but you can hardly complain that he is acting inappropriately if you have never interacted with him directly.

It is OK to find some people creepy and to trust your instincts on this. However, I really don't think you can actually complain about this man without having something more concrete to say.

myusernamewastakenbyme Wed 14-Mar-18 09:17:34

How spiteful of you....i hope someone complains about you to your boss for non existent reasons.

KochabRising Wed 14-Mar-18 09:19:27

The correct response was ‘hi excuse me, I’d like to use the bike... cheers!’

If you asked and he refused that’s a different matter

RedRedDogsBeg Wed 14-Mar-18 09:21:27

Good god!!

What is wrong with mumsnet at the moment?

Leer? Creepy? Get a GRIP!!

LeighaJ Wed 14-Mar-18 09:24:31

If you didn't ask to use the bike he was using as a chair and by the sounds of it he hasn't turned his creepdar on you then I'm not sure what you'd be complaining about exactly. 🤔

WinstonlovesJulia1984 Wed 14-Mar-18 09:25:12

The only thing worth complaining about would be if you had asked him to move so that you could use the bike and he had refused. Did you ask him?

Forgottencoffee Wed 14-Mar-18 09:26:17

TIRFandProud we must have met before.
NewYearNewMe18 Yes.

Lesson learnt: grow a backbone and ask him to move next time. Cheers guys!

OnionKnight Wed 14-Mar-18 09:26:28



ConstantlyCold Wed 14-Mar-18 09:28:05

It sounds like he’s doing his job

Smeaton Wed 14-Mar-18 09:31:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Forgottencoffee Wed 14-Mar-18 09:33:12

Smeaton OMG, have you been checking my emails? You git!

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