This going to happen

[MollyWantsACracker]

Family get-together this weekend
My parents have found out that my faux-brother-law (they’re not married) is heavily in debt - 40k

They have a beautiful little son. He’s nearly 2.

Their own relationship is shite. No joint account he has Good job always skint

[Aquamarine1029]

What's the issue, exactly?

[falsepriest]

Right, and...?

This is AmIBeingUnreasonable not GeneralTediousBollocks.

[DalekDalekDalek]

Thanks for sharing.

[19lottie82]

What’s you AIBU?

[MollyWantsACracker]

He hasn’t told my sister he’s heavily in debt. And now we know and she does not

[Hissy]

Firstly if he’s in a relationship with your sister that’s produced a child then to all intents and purposes he’s a bil, so less of the faux- it shows your ignorance and it’s very ugly, reflects 100% on you.

This gossip is literally NOTHING to do with you... OR your parents tbh.

Rather than come on here with your titbits, why not call your sister and see if she’s ok, and what you can do to help her?

[ThePinkOcelot]

How do you know?

[Nicknacky]

How do you your parents know and your sister doesn’t?

[alligatortoss]

She needs to know. It will impact her credit rating if she’s linked to him financially.

Also what if the bailiffs come knocking.

[DalekDalekDalek]

WTF? You sister doesn't know but you do? How does coming and having a gossip on line about it help?

[alligatortoss]

This happened to me friend, her finance hid his debt from her. She almost called off the wedding.

[Sarsparella]

How do you/they know & be so sure your sister doesn’t know? What business is it of yours anyway? Just because he has debts to pay doesn’t necessarily make him a bad person, plenty of people have cars on loans, new kitchens on but now pay later, huge mortgages? So what?

[Sarsparella]

Also what if the bailiffs come knocking

Don’t be so melodramatic, as long as payments are made there’s no suggestion of bailiffs - they don’t just show up unannounced unless he’s stopped making payments

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

How did they find out?

[MollyWantsACracker]

Ok; not necessarily in order of havings-a-go:

My faux BIL - no, we are not tied by law. He’s not my brother-in-law.
He acts like one, but he isn’t.

[MollyWantsACracker]

Is there nobody that would think it reasonable to bring their debt to the table when beginning or going on with a v serious relationship??!

[MadMags]

Wtf?!

[Nicknacky]

How does anyone else know???

[DalekDalekDalek]

How do you know but your sister doesn't?

[GreatDuckCookery6211]

Does he know that you know? How did you find out?

[MollyWantsACracker]

My parents heard that has debt. He used to buy her lovely gifts and bits when they were first going out.
He has a well-paid job.
Parents & sis+him+baby went on hols, parents picked up the majority of the bills. This wasn’t agreed.
They have a small rent.

[MollyWantsACracker]

He does not know that I know

[MollyWantsACracker]

dalek he hid it

[BlondeB83]

You sound awful.