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MollyWantsACracker Tue 13-Mar-18 20:52:20

Family get-together this weekend
My parents have found out that my faux-brother-law (they’re not married) is heavily in debt - 40k

They have a beautiful little son. He’s nearly 2.

Their own relationship is shite. No joint account he has Good job always skint

Aquamarine1029 Tue 13-Mar-18 20:54:16

What's the issue, exactly?

falsepriest Tue 13-Mar-18 20:56:18

Right, and...?

This is AmIBeingUnreasonable not GeneralTediousBollocks.

DalekDalekDalek Tue 13-Mar-18 21:00:58

Thanks for sharing.

19lottie82 Tue 13-Mar-18 21:02:54

What’s you AIBU?

MollyWantsACracker Tue 13-Mar-18 21:09:25

He hasn’t told my sister he’s heavily in debt. And now we know and she does not

Hissy Tue 13-Mar-18 21:10:46

Firstly if he’s in a relationship with your sister that’s produced a child then to all intents and purposes he’s a bil, so less of the faux- it shows your ignorance and it’s very ugly, reflects 100% on you.

This gossip is literally NOTHING to do with you... OR your parents tbh.

Rather than come on here with your titbits, why not call your sister and see if she’s ok, and what you can do to help her?

ThePinkOcelot Tue 13-Mar-18 21:11:03

How do you know?

JustHereForThePooStories Tue 13-Mar-18 21:11:32

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Nicknacky Tue 13-Mar-18 21:12:12

How do you your parents know and your sister doesn’t?

alligatortoss Tue 13-Mar-18 21:12:46

She needs to know. It will impact her credit rating if she’s linked to him financially.

Also what if the bailiffs come knocking.

DalekDalekDalek Tue 13-Mar-18 21:13:22

WTF? You sister doesn't know but you do? How does coming and having a gossip on line about it help?

alligatortoss Tue 13-Mar-18 21:13:34

This happened to me friend, her finance hid his debt from her. She almost called off the wedding.

Sarsparella Tue 13-Mar-18 21:14:06

How do you/they know & be so sure your sister doesn’t know? What business is it of yours anyway? Just because he has debts to pay doesn’t necessarily make him a bad person, plenty of people have cars on loans, new kitchens on but now pay later, huge mortgages? So what?

Sarsparella Tue 13-Mar-18 21:15:58

Also what if the bailiffs come knocking

Don’t be so melodramatic, as long as payments are made there’s no suggestion of bailiffs - they don’t just show up unannounced unless he’s stopped making payments

ThroughThickAndThin01 Tue 13-Mar-18 21:17:54

How did they find out?

MollyWantsACracker Tue 13-Mar-18 21:20:55

Ok; not necessarily in order of havings-a-go:

My faux BIL - no, we are not tied by law. He’s not my brother-in-law.
He acts like one, but he isn’t.

MollyWantsACracker Tue 13-Mar-18 21:24:10

Is there nobody that would think it reasonable to bring their debt to the table when beginning or going on with a v serious relationship??!

MadMags Tue 13-Mar-18 21:24:27


Nicknacky Tue 13-Mar-18 21:25:25

How does anyone else know???

DalekDalekDalek Tue 13-Mar-18 21:26:12

How do you know but your sister doesn't?

GreatDuckCookery Tue 13-Mar-18 21:31:37

Does he know that you know? How did you find out?

MollyWantsACracker Tue 13-Mar-18 21:32:21

My parents heard that has debt. He used to buy her lovely gifts and bits when they were first going out.
He has a well-paid job.
Parents & sis+him+baby went on hols, parents picked up the majority of the bills. This wasn’t agreed.
They have a small rent.

MollyWantsACracker Tue 13-Mar-18 21:32:58

He does not know that I know

MollyWantsACracker Tue 13-Mar-18 21:33:31

dalek he hid it

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