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To wonder why the name needs to be said....

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Thisisnotreallymyname Tue 13-Mar-18 17:57:30

A number of friends have children that go the Pre School or nursery and those are the terms they use.
However one friend has a child that goes to a Montessori nursery and she always says " just dropped ( blank) at Montessori" whereas the rest will say something like " just dropped ( blank ) at nursery " etc.
Is this usual or is it a subtle boast that they consider it superior.
Drives me mad !

MyBrilliantDisguise Tue 13-Mar-18 18:01:19

Yes, some people do it with their cars, too! It's just showing off.

ScipioAfricanus Tue 13-Mar-18 18:02:00

My child went to a Montessori nursery and I don’t think I would have referred to it that way unless talking to a other parent whose child went there (as Montessori was part of the nursery name).

Montessori nurseries can be seen as a bit of a status thing in some places (naice London boroughs) so perhaps there is some snobbery there? Depends on what your friend is like talking about other potentially posh things.

My child went there because it was term time only and because I like Montessori early education. It wasn’t the most aspirational nursery in the area but there were some cliquey mums in Breton tops etc. No idea how many of them were also at the other nurseries.

MauriceTheSpaceCowboy Tue 13-Mar-18 18:04:54

Do you know, I think I do that.

DS goes to the Montessori Nursery and I do refer to it as the Montessori. I think it’s a kind of “ooh we believe in Montessori, chat to me about it!” prompt (DS will be going to a Montessori school, we’re v committed to the approach) rather than being snobby or trying to show off. But I can see how it’s annoying and will endeavour to stop smile

Curiousaboutchoices Tue 13-Mar-18 18:05:10

That’s my experience too OP, everyone I know who used a Montessori called it that. It always felt weird, like people who say ‘I’m just parking the BMW’. Terwats.

Idontevencareanymore Tue 13-Mar-18 18:06:22

Yes, it's a kind of badge almost for some.
Same with forest school and steiner school.

flumpybear Tue 13-Mar-18 18:10:09

Trying to

Sound special


MauriceTheSpaceCowboy Tue 13-Mar-18 18:10:25

Hah I am a twat then!

ANd yes thinking about it I have friends who take their children to “the Steiner” or “forest school”, rather than just saying Nursery. I think it’s more an announcement of values or ideas rather than pure snobby ness if that helps.

Triangularsquare Tue 13-Mar-18 18:10:42

See also: iPhones. "Anyone seen my iPhone, I left it in the kitchen?" Oh, shush. It's just a phone. If you really want to describe it tell me what colour cover it's in. Disclaimer: I may have an android inferiority complex.

GrainneWail Tue 13-Mar-18 18:11:13

Where I live, all preschools are Montessori, so you're considered very up your own arse pretentious to call it nursery!

MotherofaSurvivor Tue 13-Mar-18 18:17:20

My daughter went to a Montessori-style Pre school recently and her behaviour has never been so bad since she started there! 😱

Whether that was down to the Nursery staff, the kids there or the Montessori approach is anyone's guess but since she changed, her behaviour has improved dramatically!

I called it Nursery....

DalekDalekDalek Tue 13-Mar-18 18:20:17

Sounds a bit wanky.

CruCru Tue 13-Mar-18 18:42:51

I know someone who does this, except it’s the area that her daughter and grandchildren live in. So if you speak to her, she’ll say something like “Well Maisie is at {Area name} Primary School - meaningful pause - until 3:30 so she’ll come over later”.

The thing is, although {Area} was a bit smarter twenty or thirty years ago, it isn’t any more (but is still perfectly nice). So people who are new to the area just look blank when she does the meaningful pause.

EastMidsMummy Tue 13-Mar-18 18:54:00

The sounds like the equivalent of "at Oxbridge." Never "at university." Always "when I was at Oxford" or "when I was at Cambridge."

nooka Tue 13-Mar-18 19:07:22

My children went to a Montessori nursery. We chose it because it was literally across the road from our home at the time (and lovely) but I dpon't think they were really very purist with the Montessori ethos. I think we just called it the nursery or by it's name (but not with the Montessori bit as that would have been a bit of a mouthful). The staff and families weren't very representative of our area which was pretty white working class where the nursery was almost completely black middle class for some reason.

BusySittingDown Tue 13-Mar-18 19:11:21

My sister does it with her car. She always calls it “The Merc” never the car.

Funnily enough she used to drive a Citroen Picasso and she always used to call that “The Car”. wink

sanasa Tue 13-Mar-18 19:14:22

There's a Montessori nursery near me and I avoided like the plague with my children.
It's an absolute dive!

Amanduh Tue 13-Mar-18 19:14:52

It’s ridiculous. Like on Friday Night Dinner... ‘ I was in the mercedes... when we cleaned the mercedes... we used the mercedes...’ although theres probably nobody whos seen that

OneEpisode Tue 13-Mar-18 19:15:24

I do spell out places in a very fastidious way for the asd dc. And I think I do this when talking to others too. Dc has taught me to be precise..

Flomy Tue 13-Mar-18 19:22:10

This reminds me of the "When I did my degree" people.

I did GCSEs all E grades grin

MrsFantastic Tue 13-Mar-18 19:23:25

DH worked with someone, who used to say "I drove the Porsche to Brighton" rather than "I went to Brighton" or even "I drove to Brighton".

I also worked with someone, who said that he was working to support the Porsche. What is it about Porsches?

Choccywoccyhooha Tue 13-Mar-18 19:28:18

I know someone who refers to their own home as __ Cottage. As in, "had a lovely weekend at __ Cottage." "End of a long day, it's so good to put my feet up at __ Cottage." "We had all the family round at __ Cottage for mum's birthday." Bloody pretentious. It's not even a cottage, it is an average 1960s semi on a main road.

buckyou Tue 13-Mar-18 19:29:32

My niece goes to a Montessori and they call it school. Apparently it’s not a nursery (even though DN is 2!).

Justwaitingforaline Tue 13-Mar-18 19:29:59

My DD goes to a Montessori, we just call it pre school confused

zzzzz Tue 13-Mar-18 19:32:13

I have children at different schools so I do specify more than I would I expect. Dh and I say the make of car or “your car” or “my car” so the other knows which one we’ve taken..... Montessori wouldn’t bother me.

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