I cannot make up my mind ! Ugh !
I have two boys. DS1 (13) and DS2 (8). DS2, which this post is about, has high functioning Autism, quite articulate, smart but finds it extremely difficult to establish and contain friendships.
As a young child (we knew he had Autism then), he loved water, was absolutely obsessed with it. We live be the sea side, so he loved going to the beach and having a splash about in the sea don’t. However, over time (Years!) , I realised that yes, water is fun, but DS needs to learn how to be safe in the water so he doesn’t drown !
I enrolled him to swimming classes, the instructor was great in the beginning (but as the months went by, the instructor was getting lazy). However ! DS made very good friends with the two boys (3:1 session) in his swimming sessions. This is a first ! Since he finds it difficult to substain friendships.
However, in recent months, the instructor has been slacking in teaching the boys, especially DS. I don’t think the other parents mind as their boys are already good swimmers. The instructor also ALWAYS mentions about DS Autism... for example “I’n A specialist at teaching kids with Autism and disabilities”. “ The thing with Autism is that your son may take a while to learn how to swim”. “He will swim in his own way”. “It must be hard parenting a child with Autism”. She does this ALL the time. It’s like she has crossed a line with DS for being Autistic and not getting further up in swimming.
After that, I had enough. DS wasn’t progressing in swimming, not totally down to the instructor of course. DS finds it hard to focus in sessions and the instructor sorts of gives up and let him do his own thing. Moving on, a friend recommended me this private swimming academy sort of thing. I thought “Well, it’ll do no harm”. DS has been there for 7 months and is making outstanding progress ! The instructors get him, they don’t cross a line with DS because of his Autism, they teach him swimming techniques (diving, posture etc etc) because they believe in his ability.
However, I don’t know what to do. DS is currently having 2 sessions of swimming classes a week. One with his friends at the leisure centre and the other at the private swimming school. I’m worried if I quite his swimming sessions with the boys, he would lose the friendship. The families and myself don’t live near each other so play dates or outings would be difficult to organise. But oh my goodness ! I just want DS to quit this place. Every time he goes back to the session at the swimming centre, he loses all the skills the swimming academy taught him, as if he goes backwards (Some children with Autism find it hard to generalise new skills in new environments, I think this is DS issue).
I don’t know what to do. Urgh it’s a hard one.
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To end these swimming lessons once and for all
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stuckintheblastingsnow · 12/03/2018 11:55
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