Hi everyone sorry more of a wwyd. I have a friend who's my best friends sister I've known both of them for over 10 years. I will call her Hannah. Hannah has a 13 year old son who I've known since he was 3 he is a lovely boy.
Hannah had some problems last year with her father huge back story but basically her dad murdered their mum years ago went to prison for a short time and has spent the last 20 odd years abusing alcohol and drugs. Hannah used to speak to her dad but my best friend never has.
For the past few months since the trouble last year's me and my bf have noticed Hannah has been really down so we've been trying to help and support her through and arranging things we know she likes.
Last week it all came to a head when Hannah meant a guy for lunch on a week day while her son was at school she promised him she would be home at 4 but didn't arrive back until gone 7 and she was very drunk. Hannah is single parent so her son was sat waiting for her on his own and hadn't had any dinner. Around 10pm that night Hannah called me saying she couldn't cope and i had to take her son in for the night in heartbeat I agreed and took the boy in for the night and sent him off to school the next day he was very upset when he came to me crying and very distressed. I will admit I maybe waded in a little and took charge I made Hannah a doctors appointment which she did attend and i called her work and told them that her emotional wellbeing was in turmoil and not to expect her in. She's been off since then.
In this time she has been out a further 3 times leaving her son at home alone 1 more of these times he returned home from school to an empty house and when she returned she was drunk. Tonight she went out on a date she went out at 6 and agreed with her son she would be home by 9 but she still isnt home and I've been told by a friend she is very drunk and trying to get hold of cocaine (she has form for this and has ruined many evenings out with her drug use)
The son isn't my relative but im quite close to him and my bf even though she is his auntie has 2 children a small house and one of her children has special needs.
I have had words with her tonight and i feel bad because i kind of lost my temper and told her how selfish she was being and how unfair this is on her son. This is all having a huge emotional impact on the boy he looks so miserable and upset all the time but Hannah just doesn't care all she cares about is going out drinking and doing drugs. Shes usually a great mother a little selfish at times but her son usually comes first. The doctor prescribed anti depressants and sleeping tablets she will take the sleeping tablets but not the anti deoressents. I'm worried I dont know what to do bf doesn't like any confrontation with her sister and just tends to go along with her sister to keep the peace but i cant sit back and watch her destroy her life and her relationship with her child I dont want to interfere or get her into trouble but what can I do to help? I've told her so much over the past few months how much we all care about her how strong she is and how none of this with her dad is her fault but nothing sinks In.
Please any one if you have any advice id be glad to hear it also I apologise for any typos and all the grammar mistakes im on my phone and I'm up so late with worry that I'm going to get a call from her son.
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Peanutbutterjelly1 · 09/03/2018 02:41
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