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EbayIsKing · 25/02/2018 21:29

Hi all,

Long time lurker, first time poster - I have seen so much good advice on here and honestly I’m in a real pickle.

Currently in rented accommodation with one flat mate in a busy but, until now, very safe part of a major city. Been here for just over a year, get on fairly well with all neighbours, but we’re british so not too pally unfortunately. I ordered quite a few things on payday (Tuesday) to put together little gifts boxes asking my lovely girlfriend S to be my bridesmaids. A lot of these were small, inexpensive but emotionally relevant and personalised.

I was visiting family on Friday night so left at around 8am on Friday for work and wasn’t back until Saturday at around 3pm. My flat mate told me there were four parcels for me ‘by the front door’, by which she meant in our secure communal entryway. Parcels are often left here and we all tend to pop them in piles for different flats if that person has a few. This entryway is behind a locked, frosted door so no one walking past would have seen them. There are four flats in the building - flat 1 is a retired gentleman often home along and flat 3 is a new mother home on maternity leave, we get on very well with both and they have kindly said they will sign for parcels so we can get bigger ones delivered to our home rather then at work. I popped down to check and there were no parcels there - after looking around for a bit I opened the door to the cupboard where the energy meters are kept and saw two parcels addressed to me - both opened, both empty.

I am so upset that someone has done this. I have only managed to speak to the gentleman at flat 1, who was very upset as he had indeed signed for a parcel and left it where he normally would for me, and this has now happened.

I really don’t know what to do or think. I called 111 and they said there isn’t anything they can do as, although it’s a crime, they have no evidence as to who took them. It’s not a huge value which is missing but it’s really upset me.

On to the conclusion I have jumped to; I know it is possible someone could have come in - another delivery driver, a friend, an old tennant etc - but there have been a few other incidents which now seem suspicious. About a week ago I ordered 40 hangers from eBay and only 16 were delivered, and the box was opened. I assumed it was damaged in transit and went back to them. My flat mate had a dress go missing a few months ago, and the shop said they had posted it and it had been signed for by a neighbour, but again we assumed a mistake had occurred.

I suspect flat 2 is behind this. Flat 1 and 3 are very nice, neighbourly, we have exchanged Christmas cards / small gifts and talk casually fairly often. Not sure if relevant but they are also, from what we know, quite well off (nice cars etc). Flat 2 has been a bit stand offish the whole time we have been here, a bit awkward and doing strange things like standing in the hallway almost as if listening for us to come down?

What do I do?! I obviously don’t want to accuse anyone of anything with no proof, don’t want to loose the stuff I ordered and don’t want to not feel that my mail is safe! I’m worrying about things like bank statements, bills, Drs letters etc....

Thanks so much for reading, especially on a Sunday night!

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WishingOnABar · 25/02/2018 21:33

I may be missing something but if your flatmate saw you had parcels in the communal hallway, why did she leave them there knowing there have been prior incidences of parcels being opened?