DH has two brothers that have split a house in two, one flat up and one down with a grannie/bachelor type flat out back. We currently live in our own flat with LO due April and flat lease up in June. One DBIL is moving into the bachelor pad to save money. The other DBIL is asking if we want to move into the downstairs flat once ours is up.
Our current 2BD flat is pretty basic (tiny kitchen as in 2.5m x 2.5m, shower only, no outside space, no parking, no pavements too congested to walk) but due to the area we're in just under £1000 a month with bills. If we move in with DBIL it will be reduced to £600 with no bills, if we move where we were originally looking at it will be £1200 with bills.
DBIL is 1BD is bigger overall than where we are now with a sort of open second bedroom between the living room and kitchen, one separate toilet, one main bathroom but no bath. It's likely we'd have to stay for two years with a new lease (DBIL would move if we didn't join them) so I'm thinking LO will struggle to sleep in this open second bedroom bit once older, plus the lack of bath would be annoying. I also just don't want to live so close to my DH family (DBIL, DSisIL x2DS), they're nice enough but I don't want to know their business you know? DH is very much for it because of the saving money part, especially as I won't be working for four months once LO arrives.
I do kind of know IBU because we would be saving a lot of money but it just feels like a forgone conclusion and I hate feeling trapped. Any alternate ways of looking at this would be appreciated or just a straightforward you muppet to make me see sense!!
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ROTFLBSST · 25/02/2018 18:01
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