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AIBU in thinking that this post about breastmilk being. .

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missmorleyme Sun 25-Feb-18 11:50:58

Best is going to make women who can't/won't breastfeed there baby's wholly inadequate? Everyone knows that breastmilk is better than formula but that doesn't mean that this woman can say that breast is beast, it feed into peoples opinions to make women feel guilty when they can't and won't breastfeed, no one should feel like that because of someone else's opinions.

missmorleyme Sun 25-Feb-18 11:52:29

*feel wholly inadequate

FenellaMaxwellsPony Sun 25-Feb-18 11:53:09

It’s virtually impossible to understand what you are saying, so I don’t think anyone is going to feel anything either way. confused

SleepingStandingUp Sun 25-Feb-18 11:54:05

Alas opinions are like arseholes, everyone has them. You'd be better off saying how you feel on the actual thread though rather than a TAAT which well get deletes

TheQueenOfWands Sun 25-Feb-18 11:54:13


I didn't breastfeed and no one made me feel guilty.

You can just ignore comments and do your own thing. Nothing's enshrined in law.

Killerqueen2244 Sun 25-Feb-18 11:55:18

🙄 boring goady post, go out and do something. It’s sunny outside

Amatree Sun 25-Feb-18 11:58:04

Formula isn't better than breastmilk when baby isn't getting enough so is starving or dehydrated.

missmorleyme Sun 25-Feb-18 12:00:37 forgot to add the link, I'm an idiot sometimes.
What I'm trying to say is some women cant breast feed their baby's because of medical reasons and some won't because of their own reasons. I don't have a side as I breast fed and formula fed my dc. I thinks it's shitty to put that out there when people know what breast milk can do already.

NSEA Sun 25-Feb-18 12:04:47

I have met a lot of people who breastfeed and a lot of people whi formula feed and I’ve never met anyone of the opinion that women should feel guilty for not breastfeeding.

So get over it, it’s a none issue.

QueenOfGaviscon Sun 25-Feb-18 12:08:54

What is going on here today!? It's medical fact. Get over it.

No one is saying the benefits of breast milk out weighs the benefits of breastfeeding when a mother is struggling

lljkk Sun 25-Feb-18 12:09:12

Sometimes I am amazed at how fragile people want to assume everyone is.

Concurrent thread on MN, "careers you would not like your DC to pursue". Soldiering is possibly mentioned most: my son is a soldier. I didn't want him to be a soldier, though I'm glad he's not off being a jihadi. Still, should I be feeling inadequate, did they only say that to make ME feel guilty? Is it "very shitty" of them to say it?

NO, because it's just a perspective & we have free speech and they weren't talking about ME. If anyone said bluntly I should feel inadequate or guilty then they would only prove themselves to be cowbags.

missmorleyme Sun 25-Feb-18 12:10:49

NSEA well i have and there are threads alm over mumsnet about this debate. When i had my first she haf jaundice, was taken back to hospital to bring the levels down and i had a fully qualified doctor tell ne that because i wasnt breastfeeding thta that was the reason my baby had jaundice, told me outright i was making my baby sick because i formula fed her, even the nurses where shakinf there heads at him, so yes it is an issue because women everyday feel pressured to bf by doctors, nurses, midwifes, partners, family and its wrong

lljkk Sun 25-Feb-18 12:11:10


swingofthings Sun 25-Feb-18 12:13:50

If you are breastfeeding because it makes you happy to do so, then all the better. If you end up not breastfeeding, whatever the reasons, or because you can't, then enjoy being a mum and do NOT let anyone, including yourself, fall to the power of guilt.

Millions of babies have gone to become happy, healthy successful adults despite being bottlefed. It's the case of my entire family and we are all doing great thank you.

I bottlefed my kids without a ounce of guilt, but thankfully, I'm quite strong minded and confident, so no-one bothered to pass a judgement on that choice.

SprogletsMum Sun 25-Feb-18 12:14:44

Breast milk IS better than formula. It's the biological norm and formula is sub standard. I breastfed my middle 2 and my oldest and youngest were formula fed.
People should get all the information to make an informed choice, not half the story to save people's feelings.

QueenOfGaviscon Sun 25-Feb-18 12:15:48

Well rather than ranting on here OP go back and educate the Dr?

Baubletrouble43 Sun 25-Feb-18 12:17:43

I wasn't able to bf my twins, for a variety of reasons. I know I did my best and that formula is OK too. I don't resent people stating facts though. That would be like saying no one is allowed to say it's unhealthy to be overweight incase some people feel bad. Sort of.

ChristmasCakes Sun 25-Feb-18 12:19:49

Breast milk should be the first choice if you can breastfeed. If you can't, and so many women can't, formula is a perfectly good substitute.

I have a baby and have come across lactivists since I was pregnant and I can safely say most of them are totally bonkers, and some of them are plain nasty horrible people who don't seem to realise fenugreek and bloody oats are not the magic cure for people who can't breastfeed. According to them we all just didn't try hard enough. Fuck them OP just ignore them. I think I'd be less infuriated by a chat with a TRA than a lactivist and that's saying something.

swingofthings Sun 25-Feb-18 12:36:17

I don't resent people stating facts though
Except too many who talk about 'facts' don't understand what facts really are.

Facts about breastfeeding is about how it affect a sample that is supposed to be representative of the population. It is NOT a fact on your own circumstances. A 'higher percentage' alone is meaningless. There is a difference between a higher percentage of 50%, ie. you have 50% higher chance of losing weight if you stick to 1800 calories than a 3000 calorie diet, and there is an increase of under 1% that your baby becoming obese as a result of being bottlefed rather than breasfted.

The average person struggles with the concept of statistics. How many would start a campaign encouraging mothers to walk their kids to school with the slogan thats chance of being killed is much higher driving there rather than walking? Yet over and over you get that 'breast is best, what a terrible mum you are to opt for bottlefeeding'!

Callamia Sun 25-Feb-18 13:12:38

In a perfect world, breastfeeding would be easy, straightforward and sustainable. No-one can argue that, under ideal conditions, a human milk wouldn’t be best for human babies. For both individually biological and sometimes environmental reasons, it’s not. And in the 21st century, that’s ok. We don’t need to feed our babies milk laced with lead, or raw milk straight from a goat or cow, or nothing much at all.

Evolution has not created humans that can give birth and feed their young without problems. We are so fortunate to live in a time and place where infant and mother mortality has improved so much in a relatively short space of time. Some of us need surgical intervention to get our babies out (skeletons have been found with baby skeletons in the space of their mother’s pelvis - it doesn’t take a genius to work out what happened); some of us need help from science to feed our babies with clean, safe milk-substitute that offers as good a nutrition as possible. We’re lucky to have that option. We shouldn’t need to row about it. We just get the fuck on with it, and support each other’s situation.

Namechangedtoscream Sun 25-Feb-18 13:15:00

My boobs are broken so this one is having a bottle from feed 1. No guilt felt here and i won't let anyone pass any onto me either

Moonandstars84 Sun 25-Feb-18 13:18:05

Now you see I had the reverse. My first was apparently jaundiced as I was starving her by breastfeeding. A frage from was bullied into bottlefeeding in a supposed breastfeeding friendly hospit.

Moonandstars84 Sun 25-Feb-18 13:20:00

Sorry sent too soon and autocorrect. Fragile
Hospital even though she wasn't tested.
No one said give her a bottle and keep trying.
Had similar with 3rd

Louiselouie0890 Sun 25-Feb-18 13:20:22

I felt guilty for moving to formula but I'd never deny the breast is better movement. It is better. I shuck myself off and got over it
Who gives a shit.

Moonandstars84 Sun 25-Feb-18 13:20:43

fragile first time mum

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