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To ask what career would you like your kids to do?

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Pointlessfact · 24/02/2018 20:40

Can be anything

Being a football fan , obviously a footballer would be high up there

And then maybe a doctor or a lawyer

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QueenofmyPrinces · 24/02/2018 20:43

My DH would prefer our sons to learn a trade and not bother with University as he believes it’s not worth it as you just end up in thousands of pounds worth of debt.

Personally I would just want them to do whatever makes them happy.

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toffee1000 · 24/02/2018 20:44

Whatever they want to do. I don’t care.

“Hoping” your kids do a certain career is rather off. What if they don’t want to do any of those?

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Tomorrowillbeachicken · 24/02/2018 20:45

He wants to be a scientist. I’m worry I’m raising a super villain at times.

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APontypandyPioneer · 24/02/2018 20:45

Whatever makes them happy (as long as it is legal)

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44PumpLane · 24/02/2018 20:46

Nobel Laureate, successful inventor and all round nice women who have (due to their amazing inventing endeavours) become wonderfully wealthy whilst remaining amazingly happy and grounded........ so, you know, the norm.

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WTFIsThisVirus · 24/02/2018 20:47

We're always joking that we would love DS to be a rugby player. We're big rugby fans.

However, what I really want is for him to do something he loves, instead of doing a career just to make money.

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Brokenbiscuit · 24/02/2018 20:47

I hope that she has a career that enables her to fulfil her incredible potential and that makes her happy to get up in the morning and go to work. I don't mind what she does - that's for her to decide.

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lolalotta · 24/02/2018 20:48

Something creative. My DD is very creative. I'm an artist Grin.

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NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 24/02/2018 20:48

At the moment DD wants to be an orthopaedic surgeon & DS a footballer, I would just like them to be happy so will support them whatever they choose.

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RumAppleGinger · 24/02/2018 20:48

Would love one of my kids to be a joiner/electrican/plumber so I could get all the shit around my house sorted.

Would love my other kid to be a hairdresser for the blow drys.

Entirely selfish reasons.

As it stands DS1 wants to be a rockstar and DS2 wants to be Santa. they are going to live with me for ever aren't they

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Minestheoneinthegreen · 24/02/2018 20:48

Anything apart from teach. It's a thankless, shit job. Other than that, I would just like her to be happy and fulfilled. A cracking salary would be a bonus.

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littlepooch · 24/02/2018 20:50

I just want them to do whatever they enjoy and will be good at. I say this as someone who was pressured by their parents to go into a traditional professional career which whilst well paid I really hate!

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Bythebeach · 24/02/2018 20:50

I hope they’ll have a job that means they can support themselves financially at a level they find sufficient doing something they like!

I’m not sure sure why I’d hope for a particular career - other than hoping they avoid life-endangering careers I guess!

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RollTopBath · 24/02/2018 20:51

Definitely not a footballer. We actively discouraged football.

We always said our job as parents was to get the children to reach adulthood (18) with sufficient qualifications and additional skills to make a choice about what they wanted to do going forward. This in effect meant we had an expectation of a minimum of 4As at A level (would be A*s now) or 43 plus points at IB.
If they then chose hairdressing or plumbing then it was an informed decision rather than something they had to accept because they lacked the qualifications to do what they really wanted.
Unsurprisingly, they all chose paths that should see them earn high incomes which in turn makes life easier.
We used contacts to help,build CVs and gain work experience and paid for additional tuition for the one who want quite on track academically. He wanted to join the forces and only actually needed something like BCC so aimed about there in lower sixth. We didn’t want him to limit other options and he needed to be sufficiently qualified to get accepted onto a good university course, if he failed AOSB.
We had no specific choices for them.

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GrannyGrissle · 24/02/2018 20:51

Goodness knows what jobs will be available (or not) when DD4 hits that age. She will have a house and a small bit of land to her name and a decent sum of cash so although i'd say apprenticeship or studying medicine at Uni if she wants to sit on her derrier doing big fat nothing i won't mind. Whatever brings her happiness.

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PatchworkElmer · 24/02/2018 20:53

I just want him to be happy.

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YellowMakesMeSmile · 24/02/2018 20:53

Something they enjoy and covers their living costs. It should be their choice.

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Longdistance · 24/02/2018 20:53

Pilot.

I’d be so proud. Both girls.

If not, something in sports, athlete, tennis etc.

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SaltySeaBird · 24/02/2018 20:55

Whatever they want to be is fine with me but I will try and give them advice and guidance to help them find a career path they enjoy and aligns with their passions.

I was encouraged into a career I hated (one typically aspirational) but changed mid twenties and now love what I do and I’m very very lucky.

DD has said she wants to do my job or be a vet.

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IHaveBrilloHair · 24/02/2018 20:55

I'm not sure what career I'd like her 'to do', but footballer would be at the bottom of the list.
Her interests academically are the STEM subjects so I'm assuming she'll go down that route.

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haba · 24/02/2018 20:58

One wants to be a bus driver, one an inventor.

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RippleEffects · 24/02/2018 20:59

Three DC here. I think it's only reasonable for one of them to run a luxury spa resort.

DS1 is naturally a very talented coder and it's a field that pays well so I nurture that thought. He's high IQ but doesn't function well at basic life skills. A good job would enable him to buy the support he will need to live independently when we're gone.

D'S 2 would like to be a teacher and DD plans to live with mummy forever - her job is to be a daughter.

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MojitoMonkey · 24/02/2018 21:25

My DS always wanted to be a professional footballer. When he was 6, I told him that he was very unlikely ever to make it as I didn’t want him to have unrealistic ambitions and he cried for hours. I felt terrible. Fast forward 14 years and he is a pro footballer loving his life and his job. So it doesn’t really matter what we want them to do, if they have drive and passion they will follow their dreams. Wouldn’t we all love to do something we really enjoy rather than somebody else’s idea of what is a suitable job?

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DayKay · 24/02/2018 21:29

A tech billionaire. Will be great for my retirement.

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