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AIBU?

Tv in room of a 3 year old

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IAmMumWho · 24/02/2018 07:52

Our 3 year olds have a tv in their room, they share.

My moan is DH let's them watch it on a weekend morning so he can get extra sleep. I'm up from 6am every morning and sometimes don't hear the kids in their room talking or whatever.

I don't like him putting it on, would rather he

come down with them and watch lounge tv
bring them down go back to bed and they watch lounge tv.

I don't think kids at that age should have a tv in their room. What is everyone else's thoughts on this. I never did so I think that's why I have a negative view on the matter.

Just to make it clear it's for a Saturday and Sunday morning only while DH gets extra sleep. Not every morning! As I'm the main carer when he's at work so I don't let it happen

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Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2018 07:53

What are they watching on it?

Pengggwn · 24/02/2018 07:53

I don't get it. Why is it there, if you don't want them watching it?

allegretto · 24/02/2018 07:54

I don't think kids at that age should have a tv in their room.
Neither do I, or at any age to be honest so I'm not sure why you agreed to it. If you are already up and you take the tv away then they will come downstairs probably. Problem solved.

Sprinklesinmyelbow · 24/02/2018 07:55

Let’s them watch it for how long?

I do sympathise because my husband lets our dc watch too much tv but it doesn’t seem that big of a deal really. Maybe he wants a rest after a busy week like you do

oblada · 24/02/2018 07:55

I agree with you, I hate the idea of TVs in bedroom anyway, but certainly not at that age! If you are up then why can the kids not simply go to you?

insancerre · 24/02/2018 07:55

Yabu to let your child have a TV when you don't agree with it
If you think it's important then stand your ground
Fwiw,, I don't think children need a TV in their room at 13, never mind 3

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2018 07:55

But if they are going to watch TV in the lounge anyway I don't get it.

IAmMumWho · 24/02/2018 07:56

To those who posted, I haven't agreed on it. I don't agree with kids having a tv in their room. I came home one day and it was there. I don't put it on as I don't want them getting hooked at watching tv in bed. It's wrong in my opinion

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Sirzy · 24/02/2018 07:56

Why does it make a difference where they are watching it?

ShutUpBaz · 24/02/2018 07:57

Why on earth do they have a tv in their room if you don't agree with it??

Take it away and they will have no choice but to come downstairs.

Sprinklesinmyelbow · 24/02/2018 07:57

I don’t think the tv in the bedroom really matters if they’ll just watch it downstairs? It’s only a TV

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2018 07:58

What are they watching on it? Does the TV have access to lots of channels?

GrooovyLass · 24/02/2018 08:00

I wouldn't let a 3yo have a TV know their room as imo they're too young to watch it unsupervised. However as you're ok with them watching it unsupervised I'd rather they were contained in their room than have the run of downstairs like they would in your option of your DH coming back to bed.

cliffdiver · 24/02/2018 08:01

I don't understand your point 2... you would be happy with your DH leaving two three year olds unsupervised downstairs whilst he slept upstairs?!

I don't agree with children having TV in their bedrooms (certainly not that young anyway) but surely it's safer for them to be (presumably) in the next room on the same floor as DH as opposed to on another level where he would be unable to hear if something happened / there was an accident?

junebirthdaygirl · 24/02/2018 08:01

If you don't want them to have a tv in their room then take it out. I hate tvs in rooms but if they only watch it on Sat mornings as everyone relaxes its fine. Especially as they are together and not sitting all alone watching tv. An hour of that every Sat morn without too much tv all weekend is not an issue really. BUT if you don't want a tv in their room for life take it out soon or there will be no going back.
Everyone is tired on Sat so any way for everyone to have a little downtime is ok. Presume your dh spends lots of time over the rest of the weekend hanging out with them.

Babdoc · 24/02/2018 08:02

I think it’s a bad idea to have tv in any child’s bedroom. Once they’re old enough to be able to switch it on themselves, you have no control over what unsuitable stuff they’re watching or how late at night they’re viewing when they’re supposed to be asleep.

user1483387154 · 24/02/2018 08:03

Take the tv out of their room

ChasedByBees · 24/02/2018 08:06

I wouldn’t put a TV in their room no. In a war or two, they’ll be able to change the channel and you’ll have no idea what they're watching, not to mention it messing with bedtimes.

IAmMumWho · 24/02/2018 08:07

I limit tv usage as it is, they go nursery 2.5 days a week. At home 4.5 days a week inc wkeds with me as I'm stay at home Mum.

I've taken it out before today and he's put it back in.

While we're home during the week we have loads of activities and play time to their choice.

I get up early to do my chores as it won't get get otherwise. I tend to stick to 7am get up as they go bed at 7pm. Normally during week I wake them. I think they know when it's weekend and call for daddy and he puts it on till either he gets up or when I hear loads of banging then I turn it off. Their up now as I got them up. Today they haven't watched it as I got there first.

Love my DH dearly and kids but I think sometimes for him it's for his convenience not theirs. I'd rather we all get up together and start the days together. I do most things with them as it's my job as a mother but and he knows this he needs to spend early mornings with them too. He'll not get up till 10/11 am so almost the morning has gone.

I'm not after sympathy but I don't want criticism either. X

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user789653241 · 24/02/2018 08:07

Just take away the remote when you don't want them to watch without your supervision.

Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2018 08:12

What are they watching?

AIBUs about TVs in childrens rooms always attract a variety of views and maybe even a bit of criticism.

IAmMumWho · 24/02/2018 08:12

It's just a tv with built in free view, he's shown them how to use the remote. Again I have removed before and he puts back in. I 100% disagree to tvs in small children's bedrooms.

They wouldn't be unsupervised if brought downstairs as I'm down.

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Sparklingbrook · 24/02/2018 08:13

Taking the remote away is the obvious answer, and if you are up anyway take the DC down with you.

IAmMumWho · 24/02/2018 08:13

@Sparklingbrook

Kids tv programs, cbeebies it's not the matter of what their watching it's just having one in their room

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Sirzy · 24/02/2018 08:14

But I don’t get what difference watching it for an hour in bed or watching it for a hour downstairs does?

actually you don’t even seem very clear as to what your issue is here really.

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