To want to hire a cleaner just for company

[crashbangwhallop]

This is an odd one. I have the same day off work each week and the only thing I have to do on this day is take DS to school, come home, clean, eat, pick him up, come back and feed DS and wait for DP to come home. DP comes home about an hour after DS and I do.
I need to clean on this day because I don’t have a lot of time during the rest of the week to get it done properly. That and I genuinely don’t have anything else to do between the hours of 9am-5pm.
I’ve rung DP in a huff today because I wanted someone to talk to but he’s busy at work.
Nobody ever visits me at home and I don’t have anyone I can invite over or go out for lunch with. Everyone I’m friends with or family lives really far away.
Today I was considering getting a cleaner to come on my day off just so each week I can clean with them and sit down and have a cup of tea but then I realised they might think I’m a sad nutter and run away!
I’m just really lonely on my days off!

[HRTpatch]

Would you not go for lunch on your own?

[crashbangwhallop]

It’s cheaper if I eat at home and to be honest there’s still nobody to talk to when I go out.

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

Volunteer work?

[Rainatnight]

Is there nothing you'd enjoy doing on your own?

[crashbangwhallop]

I sound really sad don’t I sorry I’m not usually this depressing I promise. I’ve binge watched the living daylights out of everything I can on Netflix.

[Aprilshowerswontbelong]

Cleaner here!! Would be nice to clean alongside someone for a change!! Coffee +biscuits and I'm yours!!

[SleepingStandingUp]

Any neighbours who might also feel lonely?

[crashbangwhallop]

Not really rain. Nothing that I can think of. I used to go to the gym but I’m not very good at exercising without making myself look like a tit. I work alone the rest of the week so sometimes I just think I’d like my day off to have a bit of company. And I’d love a cleaner to be honest even if they don’t do all of it, just a bit of help.

[squashyhat]

Yoga class? Cinema? Gardening? (OK not all year round). Volunteer reading at your son's school?

[10thingsIhateAboutTheDailyMail]

Activity/sport?

[Aprilshowerswontbelong]

Where abouts are you op??

[crashbangwhallop]

April I don’t suppose you live near south London at all? Lol
Sleeping all the neighbours I know are at work. And I rarely speak to the others. Most of them keep themselves to themselves and there’s a fair few who live out of the country most of the time leaving their flats empty.

[Kerry111]

I have a cleaner starting next week and I'm excited about the company. I'm a Sahm and pretty lonely most of the time. Give it a try. You have nothing to lose.

[Foodylicious]

Site there is somewhere near you you can volunteer

A food bank or lunch club maybe
Or a play group?

Do you have a community centre you can get in touch with?

Maybe you could become a befriender and visit other people?

[Aprilshowerswontbelong]

Ah up North unfortunately op.

[crashbangwhallop]

Squashy I might look into some of those. Ive tried volunteering at the school but they usually ask for them on days I’m at work.

[MyBrilliantDisguise]

What are your interests? You have a solitary job so it would be good if you did something for yourself on that day off, where you could meet other people. By all means get a cleaner to give you a hand (who wants to spend the whole day cleaning?) but try to spend some of the day out of the house.

If you tell us your interests I'm sure we can find something for you to do!

[crashbangwhallop]

Oh April we’ll well at least there are cleaners who would be happy with the idea.
I used to have a cleaner at my old flat and she was more like a mum! I’d be cleaning alongside her and she’d help me with DS too. I think I might try it. If I’m upfront about wanting a friendly person to come over who’s okay with me cleaning with them then I think I should find someone who enjoys a cup of tea and chin wag as much as I do!

[TakemedowntoPotatoCity]

I love having several hours to myself with noone to talk to, especially if it's a rare occurrence. I consider myself an introvert though. Your day sounds bliss to me!

[susiebee61]

book group?

[crashbangwhallop]

Brilliant I love singing. I’m morning brilliant at it but I do enjoy it. I have had a look for lessons or piano lessons but nobody is available on Thursdays at the minute.

[Megs4x3]

I had a job as a cleaner for just your reasons. It was a great job.

[LadyPenelopeCantDance]

How about becoming a befriender? It would be mutually beneficial for you and the person you are matched with. I have a friend who does this and goes to see a fabulous older lady. She loves it and they go to tea and the theatre together regularly. You have nothing to lose!

www.ageuk.org.uk/services/befriending-services/

[Originalfoogirl]

Nope. And when I was a cleaner I'd have through it was weird.

You basically want to pay someone to be your friend for an hour. That is strange.

[MichaelBendfaster]

I used to go to the gym but I’m not very good at exercising without making myself look like a tit

Are you OK, OP? You sound like you're being quite hard on yourself. I do zumba and BalletFit despite being lanky and uncoordinated and stiff as a board. I go bright red after five minutes in zumba and sometimes in the more strenuous bits of BalletFit. I constantly get the moves wrong and am always behind everyone/on the wrong foot/turning the wrong way etc. But I don't care. You SHOULDN'T care that much about a bunch of strangers at the gym.

Also, you're lonely after one day on your own – while I'm aware that I'm looking from the perspective of being a misanthrope an introvert and happy with my own company most of the time, this sounds a little extreme. It's not a very long day. Are you generally not happy in your own company at all?