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Telling people how you feel

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jacobsgirl Tue 20-Feb-18 09:46:28

More of a general opinion than a post about a specific example.

I don't know if others are the same but sometimes I wake up n I just don't feel like socialising or I might be a bit grumpy that day

Is it wrong to admit to people the reason you might not want to meet up or chat that day is because you're not In the best of moods and would rather another day when you feel better?

Or is it just the sort of normal thing to lie and say something else ?

Sparklingbrook Tue 20-Feb-18 09:49:19

I do know what you mean but really try to give my head a wobble and meet up. Because I always feel better afterwards having got out of the house and chattedwith a friend.

But I probably would tell a little white lie rather than say I am not feeling sociable if I really couldn't face it.

jacobsgirl Tue 20-Feb-18 09:52:05

I do usually make myself go Ian's then I do feel better but other times for example if I've been out many days in a row I might just want that one day alone

I've never had a problem telling people that I'm grumpy that day or whatever but I just hope they don't think it's a reflection on them as a person because it never is lol

jacobsgirl Tue 20-Feb-18 09:52:32

Don't know why the words Ian's slipped in there

Sparklingbrook Tue 20-Feb-18 09:55:22

If they are close friends I am sure they understand. They probably feel the same sometimes.

Just explain you have been out a lot and have stuff to do. Sometimes I have said 'I wouldn't be very good company' and arranged another day.

jacobsgirl Tue 20-Feb-18 09:56:22

That's usually what I say

Because I'm more concerned they'll have a bad time when I feel down so that's why I cancel

Feel a bit better knowing it's not just me

Sparklingbrook Tue 20-Feb-18 09:59:45

Are you ok in general? Have you got stuff going on that makes you feel down?

VileyRose Tue 20-Feb-18 10:01:00

Well we are cyclic not linear so it's actually normal to be like this. I always be honest and don't always give a reason. Just honour what you feel!

jacobsgirl Tue 20-Feb-18 10:02:02

I've got a minor case of Pnd and anxiety and have been getting better thanks for asking

Used to be all the time. Now it's just the odd day here and there like most people I think !

Sparklingbrook Tue 20-Feb-18 10:02:58

I do appreciate being able to text when I really can't face going out.Much easier.

MrsPreston11 Tue 20-Feb-18 10:03:48

We've had a mega hectic half term and I need to catch up and just be by myself today. Normally I meet a friend for coffee on a Tuesday but I just explained I'm excited to finally have a child and husband free day to catch up on my housework and emails.

Any reasonable friend would understand that adults need some alone time. Don't stress it. X

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