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How would you feel?

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cheeseboardaddict · 20/02/2018 08:52

Say your next door neighbour was a really good friend of yours, you then divorced your husband and moved out, your friend who lives next door is now friends with husbands new girlfriend. How would you feel?

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LifeBeginsAtGin · 20/02/2018 08:54

I'd move away from all my friends and neighbours and get on with my life.

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MermaidTailUnicornHorn · 20/02/2018 08:54

Depends.

If you divorced him (assuming no affair) then neither woman has done anything wrong.

It would also depend on whether she’d dropped as a friend.

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InDubiousBattle · 20/02/2018 08:55

I suppose it would depend onhow the divorce came about and how good a friend she was. Mainly I would think she's a friendly person who, pragmatically want to get on with her new neighbour.

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cheeseboardaddict · 20/02/2018 08:55

But would you still be friends with the neighbour?

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InDubiousBattle · 20/02/2018 08:59

Man is truly awful and cheats on his wife with ow, then moves her in and wife's best friend befriends her- totally different scenario to befriending a new girlfriend after a mutually agreed divorce.

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Atalune · 20/02/2018 09:01

I’d think you can’t fault your neighbour for being neighbourly and if ther was no infidelity on his part with the girlfriend prior to the split then it’s fine.

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MermaidTailUnicornHorn · 20/02/2018 09:01

Unsure why you’re not providing more context if you want an answer to your question

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Sugarpiehoneyeye · 20/02/2018 09:01

It's difficult, but life goes on. People never cease to amaze me !
I hope all this is soon behind you. 🌸

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Laiste · 20/02/2018 09:01

Would i stay friends with my x neighbor who has become matey with my x husband's girlfriend?

Um - depends on the circumstances.

Was it a messy unfriendly divorce?
Was it long ago?
Are you and x husband still at each other's throats?

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Atalune · 20/02/2018 09:01

I think it’s totally fine. Who says it’s not.

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Snowysky20009 · 20/02/2018 09:02

Depends on the context. If she has become friends because they are neighbours ans the gf wasn't involved in the split up, I can't see a problem.

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PeerieBreeks · 20/02/2018 09:09

I'm guessing you are the neighbour?

Yes, it wouldn't make a difference to me.

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cheeseboardaddict · 20/02/2018 09:10

There's no cheating involved. Neighbour is the time of person who speaks to everybody, that's how I became friends with her. I can't help but to feel a bit awkward tbh. Maybe I'm in the wrong on this one

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Clandestino · 20/02/2018 09:13

If the relationship is more neighbourly than really best pals, then you are very BU.
You can't expect people to hold grudges on your behalf.

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FreudianSlurp · 20/02/2018 09:16

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Atalune · 20/02/2018 09:18

I think you’re in the wrong and although I can see it would hurt it’s irrational.

Don’t let it get the better of you and ruin your relationship with her.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 20/02/2018 09:19

Friends as in going out together or friendly as in saying hello etc? I can see why the former would make you feel uncomfortable tbh.

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NotSoSprightly · 20/02/2018 09:24

I don't think I'd care.

She's behaving like an adult.

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cheeseboardaddict · 20/02/2018 09:26

Friends as in going out together, doing things together not neighbour friendly. That's what I'm worried about, how do I know she's not telling her things I've shared with her?

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MrsDilber · 20/02/2018 09:27

If your husband's gf lives next door to her, I wouldn't expect neighbour to not be friends with her. That's unfair

I might not like it though.

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BitOutOfPractice · 20/02/2018 09:27

It wouldn't bother me at all. I have a few friends who are still friends with my exH and his GF too. I think it's a good thing. Adult.

Obviously that's if it wasn't a really acrimonious split

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BitOutOfPractice · 20/02/2018 09:28

Why would you think he's being indiscreet? Does she gossip with you about your ex and his GF?

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 20/02/2018 09:29

Is your friend someone that would talk about you? Unless you speak to her and let her know this is troubling you, you'll drive yourself daft.

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