Hiya
Bit of background
My friend and I met through our dcs (3) and have been good friends for pretty much 3 years with no problems we've always helped each other out with bits and bobs and I've always felt that the friendship was balanced.
She's recently had her second dc and although my dh and I are happy to help it's got to the point where its a bit much
For example
I was asked to pick up her dd from nursery as friend was tired (fair enough) and when we reached their house they weren't in and were unreachable so I took dd back to our house I got a text saying she'd popped out and would pick dd up on the way home, she turned up at 645 I'd fed showered and put her dd into pj's and was contemplating putting her to bed with my dd friend said she got side tracked.
She's asked us to help out with taking her dd to an extra curricular activity each week as she's got 2 dcs now, I've offered to split them with her and 2e each do 50/50. She'd rather not and said she'd hoped we'd do them all. Same with swimming class each weekend.
I was asked to attend an event at her dds nursery on her behalf as she doesn't want to take both dcs as it seems like hard work (her words not mine) I offered to go into work late and help her get out of the house with both dcs so she could attend she declined and text my mil who went instead (couldn't go as I'd already booked time off work as went to my own dds event)
She asked me to have her dd for a few hours today which I was happy to do told her I'd take them both to soft play to burn some energy friend wasn't happy with activity and said her dd wanted to do arts and crafts at my house and she'd keep her at home then turned up this afternoon unannounced to drop her dd off and has left
I really don't mind helping my friend but I also don't want so much responsibility for some one else's child. What's the balance here?
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To want to help friend but be struggling to find a balance
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Nicpem1982 · 19/02/2018 15:28
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19/02/2018 16:03
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