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AIBU?

Bloody dh, aibu?

254 replies

FlopsyMcDoodle · 17/02/2018 19:27

Staying with my dm at the moment - 2 dc’s 5yo and 2yo, both obsessed with trains. My dm doesn’t really have any kids stuff around and her house is very much an adults house - lots of ornaments, breakables, lovely furniture, generally just fairly stressful with 2 young dc.

She dug ou a few toys that my siblings and I had left - dolls house, bit of brio and my dbro’s old electric trainset. Dc2 has been loving the trains from the electric trainset but keeps getting cross because they don’t connect properly. They’re only really designed to stay together on the proper track which is too fiddly for dc2. He kept getting cross so I said I’d put it away and get it out again when he’s older. I haven’t seen it for a couple of days so assumed either dh or dm had put it back in the loft. Dm asked me where it was today, I said I didn’t know, dh said ‘oh I threw it in the bin.’ Dm then went rummaging through the bins but bins collected yesterday and looks like they’re gone Sad.

Dh hasn’t apologised and doesn’t see what the problem is. He thinks it’s just junk so he threw it away. Dm is upset but wouldn’t say anything. Aibu to think dh has been really fucking rude? You don’t just chuck away other people’s stuff because it’s annoying your kid. I’m bloody mortified and think he needs to apologise and replace it.

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KateGrey · 17/02/2018 19:28

That’s really rude of him

ChaChaChaCh4nges · 17/02/2018 19:30

Christ! He might’ve thrown away a fortune. YANBU.

MadRainbow · 17/02/2018 19:30

Yes he needs to apologise big time. It wasn't his to throw away

Gide · 17/02/2018 19:31

What the hell?! He threw out the train set because it was annoying the dc? Is he totally stupid? That’s appalling behaviour. :(

GrooovyLass · 17/02/2018 19:31

He threw out your brother's train set? That's awful. Way to start a family feud...

Blackteadrinker77 · 17/02/2018 19:31

You can't replace it, it won't be the one her children played with.

Your DH needs to apologise, his feelings don't come in to it, he has upset your Mum and needs to acknowledge that.

Clem7 · 17/02/2018 19:33

Total asshole. And he can’t see that he did wrong? Sounds a bit deranged.

Ivebeenaroundtheblock · 17/02/2018 19:33

He’s an idiot of the biggest magnitude.
He better be darn good at finding an eBay or new replacement!!! For his and future grandkids.

QueenB14 · 17/02/2018 19:34

I agree, dh needs to apologise to your mum

thedancingbear · 17/02/2018 19:35

It's a bit dozy. He probably thought it was knackered and worthless but it wasn't his to throw out. I know a little bit about model railways and unless it's very old it's unlikely to have been worth much money-wise.

FlopsyMcDoodle · 17/02/2018 19:35

He genuinely doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong. He didn’t throw away the track just the engines and coaches. It was fairly battered but that’s not the point, it was my dbros! My poor old dm is really upset and dh is just being an arse Sad

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stitchglitched · 17/02/2018 19:35

Your poor Mum! This seems like such an odd thing to do. Is he usually so thoughtless?

mumpoints · 17/02/2018 19:36

That's awful. Apart from the fact that it is technically theft, it's rude and as pp have said he may have thrown away something worth a lot of money.

Who did it belong to? You or one of your siblings? I would be getting the owner to ask him to replace it.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 17/02/2018 19:36

That's really mean. He must have known what he was doing.

mumpoints · 17/02/2018 19:37

OK, get him to explain to your brother that he has thrown his stuff away.

FlopsyMcDoodle · 17/02/2018 19:37

I don’t think it’s thoughtlessness he just doesn’t have any attachment to anything sentimental and can’t seem to understand why other people do.

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Softkitty2 · 17/02/2018 19:37

He is an arse. Take something of his and throw it out and totally disregard his feelings about it.

Blackteadrinker77 · 17/02/2018 19:38

He genuinely doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong

It doesn't matter what he thinks, he has upset her and needs to apologise.

BewareOfDragons · 17/02/2018 19:38

Your DH was completely in the wrong. Completely.

He needs to apologize.

I'm stunned he thinks it was his place to throw out things that don't belong to him!

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 17/02/2018 19:38

Your DH is an utter dick. Who does that? I would definitely go and chuck something (expensive) of his away and just claim it was annoying you so you thought that what people did!

GummyGoddess · 17/02/2018 19:39

He may not understand the attachment but he is an arse if he can see he's upset your mother and won't apologise!

I would probably be childish and throw something of his away.

zippyswife · 17/02/2018 19:39

He sounds like a dickhead. That’s the kind of thing my dh would do or at least want to do. You have my sympathies.

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FlopsyMcDoodle · 17/02/2018 19:39

It was my dbros. He’s 37 and I don’t think he’ll ever play with it again and probably didn’t even known my dm still had it tbh. But my dm did keep it and has only kept a couple of things from when we were young.

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kaytee87 · 17/02/2018 19:40

Your dh is a fucking arsehole!! How dare he throw away your brothers old toys that your mum had kept. I'd be absolutely furious.
Show him this thread, the dickhead.

Bluelady · 17/02/2018 19:40

He doesn't think he's done anything wrong? Seriously?

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