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AIBU?

To send dd upstairs at 10pm

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Dancergirl · 14/02/2018 22:51

Dd2 (just turned 15) is enjoying being the oldest child at home now dd1 is away at boarding school. Me and dh have been enjoying her company in the evenings after dd3 goes to bed and we sit and watch telly together.

But it means dh and I get very little time alone in the evenings. I've said to dd that whilst we love being with her, 10pm should be the limit and she should go up after that. But she still hangs around.

AIBU in wanting just a bit of time with dh in the evening?

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Titsywoo · 14/02/2018 22:54

Seems a bit sad to send her away if she wants to spend time with you. Doesn't she have a bedtime though? Sorry my DD is only 13 but goes to bed at 9 during term time and 10 in the holidays. Surely she isn't up after 10pm on school nights?

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Snowydaysarehere · 14/02/2018 22:56

Tit is Valentine's day!! Surely tonight it's acceptable to get rid of dc??

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Dancergirl · 14/02/2018 22:58

titsy she's a bit of a night owl, she's supposed to be in bed by 10.15/10.30pm but she rarely is. And at 15 we're starting to move away from enforced bedtimes.

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Dancergirl · 14/02/2018 22:58

Not fussed about Valentine's Day!

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 14/02/2018 23:00

I'd go to bed and shut the door, then have a nice time with your husband!

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Titsywoo · 14/02/2018 23:23

I assumed the op meant this was happening every night? I think while she is still at school - and presumably studying for gcses - she should still have a bedtime even if she is in her room reading or whatever. If just enforce that but not say it's because you want time alone as she might feel pushed out.

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Allthewaves · 14/02/2018 23:27

I'd say 10pm in her room is fair enough.

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pigeondujour · 14/02/2018 23:34

Wish someone'd send me to a room of my own at 10pm every night. I think it's totally okay to enforce it as wind down time for her, but probably don't frame it as you want time alone with your husband.

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