This is all getting so muddled in my head and I don't know what I should do. I'll try not to drip feed.
SIL is getting married and it is abroad. It will cost us several thousand to go. Last year, I indicated we would and that we were really looking forward to it. I found flights, accommodation, planned it all, booked my leave at work etc.
Dh never shared my enthusiasm and never looked at flights or accommodation etc. He seemed disinterested in the whole thing and when I tried to show him places etc he wasn't properly paying attention or getting enthusiastic. I then backed off the arrangements as it was getting irritating and it's his side of the family after.all. He is civil with his sister but they are not close at all.
I see MIL every week when she sees the children. Recently I let mil know in conversation we haven't booked anything as she keeps asking, and i hinted to mil that dh wasn't keen on going but didn't really expand on why as I think that's his concern. And I'm not clear why myself anyway, not sure he is either!
Basically it is now at the point where it is much more expensive for us to go. Dh is saying that we can't afford it now which is a bit annoying as if we wanted to we could although it would blow our savings as we are in a tight patch. Plus it would have been cheaper if we had booked earlier but he stalled and didn't want to so it obviously isn't just about the money.
Now MIL keeps messaging me to say we can borrow money from them to go which is ridiculous in my view. Why would we take on debt to go to someone elses wedding??
I am not keen on being the one to explain dh doesn't want to go. I think it's his issue he needs to sort out with his relatives.
I am disappointed with the situation as in theory it could have been a lovely experience for the children and they will miss out on a family wedding but I have zero intention of going without him. Nor do I want to put pressure on him to go somewhere he doesn't want to go and then be dragging round a stroppy dh and paying for the pleasure of it. It is not the kind of place we would choose to Holiday so we only.be going for the one day of wedding activity. But we would have to go for at least a week.
Aibu? Should I be making good with the in laws on this or should I leave it to him? What should I say to mil who is trying to get me to sort it all out? I sense a family drama looming arrggghhhh. Help me!
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