Sorry, ranting as really don't think I am bu. Tonight dp and I had a bit of a barny with him being cross that I'm being stroppy, and me cross cos he talks to me like I'm stupid/his unsatisfactory employee (so far, so normal!) Finally get to things that he could do that might help me feel less overwhelmed at the moment. I pointed out that I have too much shit going on at the mo - sick mum, sick ex-pil, me having chest infection, job going down the toilet, and that I know I can't change any of it or alter it by talking, that talking makes me feel worse as brings all those useless but valid emotions to the fore, so when he sees me looking stressed please can he not talk about it, just give me a cuddle and tell me that he's there.
"But I am there"
Yes, I know, I just need you to physically demonstrate that.
"But we need to talk when you feel stressed"
No, talking won't help, just gets me upset as well as stressed"
He then proceeded to tell me I was wrong, talked about it all for a good twenty minutes as I sat there in tears, and then told me I needed to remember he has troubles too and I should smile. And then he went to bed, without even kissing me goodnight, let alone the supportive cuddle I'd asked for, asking if I felt better now for our chat - and looking offended when I said no!
I don't get what's so hard - if I've got a face on at the mo, just give me a hug! Don't talk!
Aibu to feel like he doesn't bloody listen?
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To wish he'd just fucking listen!
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MrsPepperpot79 · 12/02/2018 23:35
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