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photoshopwhiz Sun 11-Feb-18 23:45:01

I have gained a bit of weight recently and feel like I look out of proportion and downright ugly!

Can I ask your honest opinion if I PM a recent photo?! Was taken on the weekend and I am smiling but feel dumpy and unattractive sad

photoshopwhiz Sun 11-Feb-18 23:45:54

I feel like I have an odd face that doesn’t quite work! Honest opinions please smile Be brutal if you have to!

Gemini69 Sun 11-Feb-18 23:47:00

okay hmm

Awwlookatmybabyspider Sun 11-Feb-18 23:47:58

I don't think you need brutality. You need support. Your confidence seems lower than a snakes belly.

Deshasafraisy Sun 11-Feb-18 23:48:26

Photos can be unflattering and are not usually a reflection on how you actually appear to others.

photoshopwhiz Sun 11-Feb-18 23:49:05

Thanks! It’s quite low so perhaps brutal wrong word - honest feedback perhaps? I do genuinely mean it. Just want points to work with really - fresh out of a relationship and want to work on myself

KeepServingTheDrinks Sun 11-Feb-18 23:49:34

I bet you're not as bad as you think you are.

I'm up for another 20 minutes or so if you want to PM me.

ChasedByBees Sun 11-Feb-18 23:49:38

I don’t think you should pm the photo to anyone. Even if they’re brutal you don’t know that they’re being honest, they may just want to kick someone when they’re down. I’m sure you look fine and as aww said, work on your confidence.

ChasedByBees Sun 11-Feb-18 23:50:30

Certainly don’t do this fresh out of a relationship, that’s never a good time! Many a haircut has been regretted for this exact reason.

Cracker09jacker Sun 11-Feb-18 23:51:45

I'm sure you don't look anywhere near as bad as you think. It's awful to feel uncomfortable in your own skin though.
Feel free to pm away but I'll tell you now I haven't got it in me to be cruel

sixteenapples Sun 11-Feb-18 23:52:03

But what would it achieve OP? Lose weight for yourself and your health not because someone thinks you look fat in a photo. If they don't think you look fat will you believe them? And if they think you do have an "ugly" face - then what?? Plastic surgery? And a face is lovely if it is one you love.

You are who you are. Be the best you can be. But be happy in your skin. I suspect this exercise will be a waste of time or worse.

Awwlookatmybabyspider Sun 11-Feb-18 23:52:13

If I posted a picture of myself and you had to swear on oath. You'd say I was positively repulsive. In fact youd probably throw up. I'm not ugly by any stretch of the imagination. I'm just the most unphonetic person ever to grace the planet, so. You don't always get a true likeness on pictures.

WellAlwaysHaveParis Sun 11-Feb-18 23:52:57

Just a couple of a questions:

Why do you want to work on yourself?

And what’s the link between being fresh out of a relationship and wanting to work on yourself? Do you mean that you put a lot of energy into focusing on your partner’s needs during the relationship so now you want to focus more on your own needs?

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve Sun 11-Feb-18 23:55:09

I doubt anyone you pm will say you look awful op. If you've put on weight it's only natural to feel uneasy but try and focus on your positives. I'm a size 16 and if a photo is taken at the wrong angle I cringe but I don't sell on it.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve Sun 11-Feb-18 23:55:28

Dwell on it

Sparklesocks Mon 12-Feb-18 00:09:13

You’ll never have a healthy relationship with your body and your self image if you rely so heavily on validation from complete strangers. Why put yourself through this?

maybaby17 Mon 12-Feb-18 00:10:09

Go for it

RoseWhiteTips Mon 12-Feb-18 00:12:03

Where is the pic?

AlpacaLypse Mon 12-Feb-18 00:14:56

Don't do it OP. You'll regret it in the morning.

KeepServingTheDrinks Mon 12-Feb-18 00:15:25

She's worried about nothing - she's gorgeous!

SmurfOrTerf Mon 12-Feb-18 00:25:33

KeepServing - you're right - she's bloody gorgeous

hungryhippo90 Mon 12-Feb-18 00:34:24

OP, why are you doing this?

What does it really matter? Everyone's perspectives are different.

I was told I was very pretty often, before I put weight on. Let me just tell you, my lips aren't symmetrical, my nose looks like it's made out of play dough and put on my face so on the piss a blindfolded 4 year old mightve placed it. And I've recently realised I've got a fucked up lower jaw so it sits a good 5mm back from the top.

Dont base too much on everyone else's opinions... What would you do if you were genuinely ugly? Which I'm sure you're not, but surgery? Would it be worth the pain and the cost and time?

I've kind of faced up to the fact that aslong as I smell clean, look clean and I've brushed my teeth/hair everyone can keep their opinions to themselves as it'll change nothing at all. Except for my weight, because that does need addressjng- but it's still no other fuckers business.

Learn to love you for you Lady!

Gemini69 Mon 12-Feb-18 13:25:50

Did I miss the photo hmm

photoshopwhiz Mon 12-Feb-18 18:57:25

Thanks all for the comments! Yes I did send round a photo to a few people.

ManagedTeaCups Mon 12-Feb-18 19:00:42

Can’t see a picture on your page? So subjective I’m sure youre fine probably feeling self conscious due to weight gain- photos are deceiving some of my friends are stunning but look quite average sometimes in their pictures - angles etc. I don’t like pictures of myself too easy to analyse and pick out all your flaws.

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