What's the most selfish thing your DH has done?

[Rosiie]

DH was hungry and I decided to make some chicken wraps with lettuce and mayo as a snack because we were about to get a takeaway later on. I told him there was only two tortilla wraps, me and DS would share one and DH could have the other one. He then says he had nothing to eat all day and he was hungry, and then I said so you want both wraps then? And he’s like whatever. Clearly he was upset about it and I thought to myself wow, how selfish is that! He wanted to eat it all while leaving me and DS sitting there hungry 😒

He thinks of nothing eating food in front of the DC without giving them anything, they will literally sit there and look at him eating. I share everything with my DC, anything I eat they eat, when serving food I’ll always give people the best piece of meat, best piece of everything while I eat what’s left. Even if it’s a few scraps of food.

So what’s the most selfish thing your DH/DP has done?

[Rebeccaslicker]

Erm - I'm probably worse than he is. The worst thing i do is to let him do most of the early morning starts with DD (to be fair I am the working parent and currently heavily pregnant but still I know I should do more of them!).

[Trinity66]

He's not very selfish really

[BoyFromTheBigBadCity]

OP - there must be a balance between the two of you though? It’s not great for your kids to see you accepting scraps that are left rather than getting an equal share of the good stuff, surely?

[Omgineedanamechange]

Current DH is not selfish, but EX, well, where do I start.

Insisting that all family holidays for several years were spent camping in a farmers field in the middle of no where because it was good fishing.

Booking a fishing holiday for one to Canada and saying we couldn’t afford a family holiday that year due to the cost of his trip, (yeah, there’s a theme here)

Buying his son a £1000 fishing rod for Christmas (and nothing else) when said son had no interest in fishing, but it’s ok, EX would “borrow” it till son decided he was interested,(he isn’t, to this day).

Having been reluctantly dragged abroad on holiday insisting everyone was in bed by 7pm as he wanted to be up for 4am to go fishing and didn’t want disturbing.

There so much more, but you get the picture.

[GameOldBirdz]

I told him there was only two tortilla wraps, me and DS would share one and DH could have the other one
I share everything with my DC, anything I eat they eat, when serving food I’ll always give people the best piece of meat, best piece of everything while I eat what’s left. Even if it’s a few scraps of food

That's not other people being selfish, that's you being a martyr.

[MissP103]

You both are extremes. He shares nothing and you accept the scraps. He does sound selfish though. If my ds has already eaten and I know he only wants food just because then I don't always give it to him . In this case you and d's were hungry so yes he was very selfish and childish to then get upset over it.

[bluebells1]

'DH was hungry and I decided to make some chicken wraps'

So you or your DC weren't hungry? You just wanted to eat because he ate some? I am sorry, it is not very clear. And yes, you sound like a martyr.

[saladdays66]

You sound like a martyr, Rosiie. What's the point in your dc seeing you accepting scarps??

The adult thing to do would have been one of you go to the shop and buy more wraps/bread for lunch. Did you really have nothing else in that you could have had for lunch??

[TheFirstMrsDV]

Why on earth do you share everything you eat with your children?
This is the 21st century.
We have enough to go round.

[HollyBayTree]

It's like a parallel universe sometimes.

[SweetChickadee]

when serving food I’ll always give people the best piece of meat, best piece of everything while I eat what’s left. Even if it’s a few scraps of food

why would you do that?

[LuxuryMilk]

I don’t think he’s very selfish from that example. I would have just made something else for either one of us. Plus half a wrap would leave me starving, even with the promise of a takeaway later.

Giving the best cut of meat I would do if I was hosting, but not day to day. You need to value your own needs. You deserve to have nice food too.

[OutyMcOutface]

Sports cars-repeatedly.

[Duchessgummybuns]

The night that I had DD and brought her home, she was born 2.5 weeks early and I was pretty much in shock, STBExH announced “I’m so tired” and promptly went to bed, leaving me to tend to her all night with my 2nd degree tear. I tried to wake him but he was either ignoring me or literally that sound asleep he couldn’t be woken.

Either way what a cunt. I have never felt more lonely than I did that night.

[pictish]

“I share everything with my DC, anything I eat they eat, when serving food I’ll always give people the best piece of meat, best piece of everything while I eat what’s left. Even if it’s a few scraps of food.”

Do you really? How odd! Why do you do this?

[Closetlibrarian]

Nothing. He's unselfish to a fault (although not to the extent of martyrdom). It's like he's genetically incapable of not thinking of others before himself.

Me on the other hand. I've been known to steal DC's last chocolate coin (I did, in my defence, go out and buy some more shortly afterwards).

[speakout]

then I said so you want both wraps then

What a strange thing to say.

[MyKingdomForBrie]

Well it depends on whether you’d all not eaten that day or if you’d already had lunch and he hadn’t.

He could have made his own though!

You sound like you are going to produce some rather selfish dc though if you think you’re setting a good example by constantly depriving yourself to give them extra.

[Quartz2208]

Sometimes though there is nothing round with eating in front of your DC. I tend to breakfast later (cant eat when I get up) so will at the weekend be eating when they arent as they dont want food.

Leaving yourself scraps is just odd to be honest

[Ohyesiam]

I'm not sure it's a good idea to share everything you eat with your kids Just out of habit. They need to be eating when they are hungry not when you are.
And please stop putting yourself last it is not good for anyone.

[NotSoSprightly]

YANBU, that is a selfish thing to do.

"This is the 21st century, we have enough to go around" Urm no, not everyone does actually.

[usualGubbins]

My 40th birthday. Nothing, not even a card. When I asked if he'd forgotten he said 'oh aren't we past all that stuff?' Dear Reader, I divorced him....

[pinkyredrose]

I have a vision of your DC begging like dogs to be allowed a morsel. Do they stare hopefully at anyone eating?

[AnaViaSalamanca]

I find the whole dynamics odd. He hadn't eaten anything all day, and was hungry, then why did you and DC have to eat? And as others said why the scraps?

Honestly OP apart from everything else constant snacking is very bad for children and is a big cause of obesity. If your DC had had their food, and were about to get a takeaway as well, really they had to have a bit of the wrap too?

[KERALA1]

Nothing. Wouldn't have married a selfish git