As a 21-year-old non-mum mumsnet lurker I hope you won't find it too odd that I'm posting on here. AIBU has been the best/worst deep hole to jump down whenever final year procrastination has struck.
I would really love your opinions on my situation. And if I am being unreasonable then please feel free to tell me so (would even enjoy a few harsh/rude comments).
I am currently living in a two bedroom flat with a course mate. We got on well for the most part, but I feel this can mostly be attributed to the fact that I will do almost anything to avoid conflict/tension. Yesterday she emailed me asking if her FWB could stay with us for a week whilst he is in between flats. The situation is quite odd because I have actually never met him but have heard him moving around our flat over the past few weeks since she's met him (we don't have a living room and our schedules don't really align). My initial response was that I wasn't exactly comfortable with the idea. This is mostly due to the fact that I'm experiencing quite a lot of anxiety with university/masters applications and really enjoy coming home and not having to concern myself with small talk, tiptoeing around and just generally not feeling at ease. Also, the walls are INCREDIBLY thin and I can pretty much make out word for word what they are saying (and doing). However, when I shared my feelings she was incredibly dismissive/combative and expressed how she felt his staying here wouldn't really affect me as he would mostly be staying her room and how it's her room and she can do what she wants etc. I am an extremely passive and easygoing person (euphemism for doormat) and I also get flustered in moments like these. I'm annoyed that I didn't express myself and that she didn't appreciate where I was coming from.
My flatmate is an incredibly intelligent and complex person. Having lived with her I also think it is likely she has narcissistic personality disorder (just my opinion). She often has guys over and I'm pretty ok with this. I can hear her crying as we speak.
Also, she literally just had her sister from America staying with us for three weeks also.
AIBU even if I can't explicitly state why I don't want him here for a week?
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Flatprob · 08/02/2018 22:44
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