Hi all, So let me start by I'm 33w pregnant with our ds. There's going to be 11 months between him and our dd providing he's on time. If he's not on time, the latest he will be due is the 13th April. So I have a problem. My cousin is getting married. I'm not overly close to that side of the family at all but I'd never not see them. Just life has taken over and we're both busy. We found out about ds quite late as I've still been bleeding, no bump and I was using contraception. Luckily he's all well and healthy and suddenly I've grown quite a big bump. Because I don't see them and I haven't told my dad yet I'm pregnant, we are expected to go to this wedding. Which would be fine if I wasn't expecting. Would it be unreasonable to decline the invitation but give a bit to their honeymoon? If he's late there's no way I'd be wanting to be up and about at a disco late at night just after having a baby. Especially as my dd is so young too. I'll happily go to the service if he's on time I'd have had a fair bit of recovery time by that point, just not the reception as it starts at 8pm and I want my dd in a very strong routine by this point.. Do I decline or do I agree to attend? She wants us to rsvp but I cannot gaurentee when he will arrive. I Could still be in hospital by the actual day
I think that's absolutely fine. Potentially being in labour is a perfectly reasonable reason not to attend a wedding, especially for a distant family member you aren't even close to. Just send them a nice note explaining why and send a card and gift closer to the day.
I’d decline the invite and if you want give a present/money contribution . I’m getting married soon and I’m quite stressed about getting people’s rsvp but if people can’t come then that’s not a problem
As they say a wedding invitation isnt a summons. If you dont see the people often then I really wouldn't bother, make your apologies and dont go. You arent obliged to manufacture an excuse either. TBH if it were my wedding and I was the centre of attendtion, the last thing I'd want is a brand new baby upstaging me but I'm like that
Nothing to stop you making an evening appearance if you are in a fit state to do so