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The phrase 'rod for his own back' springs to mind!

You seem to be able to get her out of the door fairly efficiently on your day & she's 6, not 2! What does DD do that makes it hard for them to leave, what behaviours does she exhibit?

If DD doesn't have any SEN then you & DH need to agree a parenting strategy that both of you agree with & implement it next week. It will be hard but no, a 6 year old does not need bribing with chocolate!

How much chocolate are we talking?

Massive bar of dairy milk..I see your point

Small kit Kat or similar? Well whatever makes his life that bit easier

I'd be cross. Could you suggest a chart or pom pom jar. Every day she leaves the house she gets a sticker or pom pom in the jar then at endnof week she gets a small treat. I keep a box of blind bags, pencils etc my kids can pick from - little things they really want

I’d be annoyed too, he needs to get a grip and learn to manage without these kind of bribes.
And to the previous poster I wouldn’t say a whole kitkat even a 2 finger one is a small amount - especially at that time of the morning

How much chocolate? Ok, it's not ideal but it's not that bad.
Is it any different to letting your child have breakfast cereal that is sweetened? Top cereal in our house is chocolate mini weetabix...

Just hide the chocolate.

It is very different doing it once a week rather than 4 days. If you are that concerned why don't you all leave together and she and dh can sit and read outside breakfast school for 10 mins.

I don't think its parenting method of the year but getting kids out in the morning before you go to work can be a pain especially if she's tired.

I don't mind mine having chocolate once a day so if she's having it at 7.30am that's it. I would also tell him that giving into tantrums tends to lead to more. I would prefer hot chocolate and say a banana as then at least there's some milk and fruit with it.

I must admit I do bribe my children to leave the house in the morning.

Dd(4) is fine, its younger Ds(2).

He has to go in his pushchair otherwise we would never get there in time.

So he gets bribed with something. Usually a biscuit. I struggle to fight with him as my health isn't brilliant and he can be bloody strong when he wants to be.

Then of course I can't give one a biscuit without the other

Is it you leaving first that causes the meltdown I wonder

I dont think its disgraceful but I dont think its ideal and you should be looking at ways to improve the system of how it works

A little bit of chocolate is not going to do any harm. As long as she is not going through packs of it through the week, I would let it go. It's not like she is given chocolate in bed, that would be terrible for her teeth

5 years ago I started college on a Thursday night so it was the only evening dh had to get dinner. He started bringing them to the chipper. 5 years later and Thursday is still chipper night. There would be a mutiny in the house if an alternative was suggested now.

Meh as long as She is getting to school happy and in one piece I couldn’t get worked up unles it was a massive amount

If it is 4 chocolate buttons, I wouldn't worry, tbh. Dark choc - even less worry.

As long as it doesn't spread to absolutely everything else.

I would be rolling my eyes at his lack of parenting dexterity rather than thinking it 'fucking disgraceful'.

Chocolate is chocolate, and bribery bribery, whatever time of day.

I'd say they should be leaving 10 minutes early so you all leave at the same time, at least until the chocolate bribe is forgotten about!

Is he her dad?

I think you finding it 'fucking disgraceful' is very unreasonable. Slightly annoyed? Yeah.

Well I've never felt comfortable about my DC having chocolate advent calendars but it's a thing now, so we go with the flow, early morning small amount of choc, so what?

If she was drinking hot chocolate for breakfast, or having toast with Nutella, or a pain au chocolat, would that be bad too?

How much chocolate? A chocolate button fine, but more not so much. Either way, your dh is making things hard for the future, IMHO.

What else is he going to need to bribe her with in future to do things?

"...they leave about 10 minutes after I go to work." It's simple really, you all leave together and he waits outside the gate for 10 mins in the cold, or takes her in early or he learns to motivate her without sugar.

If she was drinking hot chocolate for breakfast, or having toast with Nutella, or a pain au chocolat, would that be bad too?

I hope not, because it's standard breakfast in my house

You're overreacting. Can see why you would be slightly annoyed, but don't get worked up over it. I'm guilty of doing it myself now and again, pick my own battles and all that.

I think it depends on the amount. Family size bar of dairy milk no...1 or 2 chocolate buttons wouldn't be a huge issue for me.

What difference does it make if it's 7.30am or 7.30pm?

Clearly YANBU. If he keeps this up she may even turn into a bar of chocolate