I am the first of any of my friends to have a baby although DH has a few friends with older children (preschool age). Both friends & family made the initial first trip to our home to visit DC although since around 5 months have suggested we come to them. For the main area we'd have to travel to, this entails a 15-20 minute walk to the train station, an hour train journey followed by a 30 minute tube journey. My friends have suggested a few times I could come for a girly day out and bring DC which means I would have to do the train/tube journey alone with DC, buggy & a day's worth of supplies. Another friend has recently moved away & has asked me to come alone to visit with DC (DH is working) & this means either an hour car journey (although with traffic can be much more) or 90 minute train journey with 2 changes. Again this would be for a day trip with no option to stay overnight. Friend thinks it is reasonable not to drive as can't tend to baby for feeds etc but train is doable.
Would you take a baby on this length of journey for a day out alone using public transport? How far would you travel alone in a car for a meet up with a friend with a baby? We don't have anywhere to stay at the other end so it isn't an option to stay overnight. I've missed a few meet ups because I'm worried about the journey. (Meet ups are frequently when DH is working or has other plans so if I go, there is usually no option not to bring DC). I don't want to be that person who insists people travel to me if I'm being unreasonable and should be able to do this journey. I frequently travel up to 30 minutes in the car to meet up with new mum friends I've made & usually have to stop halfway to feed DC who always seems to want milk during car journeys even if prior feeds are timed so one isn't due.
DH has said he feels this journey is too long for DC to do twice in a day even if we both were available to come. I feel it would probably be ok if both DH & I travelled together but not alone. We do travel 90 minutes in the car to visit family when there is an option to stay overnight- it is the public transport & doing the journey twice in one day which is the issue.
Are we being unreasonable? I don't want to be that person who misses meet ups or insists people travel to us if I should be able to do this journey alone.
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BeepBoopBeepBoop · 08/02/2018 11:23
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