It was my husband's birthday yesterday. His dad said he and stepmum would pop round for a brew and give him his presents. Knock at the door, DH answers and comes back in about 2 minutes later. I'd just put kettle on for aforementioned cuppas so asked what everyone wanted and DH said they're not coming in. Oh, ok, did he bring you a present? Yes, says DH, holding up an unwrapped single jar of pickle and a tea towel.
The thing is DH is visibly upset but I'm angry. We are not at all grabby or materialistic (I got him a funny mug, keyring and new walking boots) but there is just so little thought (it wasn't even in a bag) I can't help feeling that it's step MIL being passive aggressive. DH would have genuinely been happy with a card but this stings more somehow than them not even bothering.
The back story and possible reason is that DH has occasionally been a week or so late with his siblings birthday presents (they are young adults living at home who incidently have never bought any of us including their nieces so much as a card, their names are signed by MIL) and MIL has been outwardly pissed off about this.
AIBU to be annoyed and upset for DH? Is step MIL a passive aggressive narcissist or are they just shit at presents? And finally should I/we confront her about it and say let's not bother with presents anymore or just take the moral high ground and keep buying thoughtful gifts for them?
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AIBU?
Ungrateful or spot on?
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Nothingbutapickle · 07/02/2018 19:25
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