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Dh being unrealistic?

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Busybeesbutt Wed 07-Feb-18 16:51:39

I'm currently very heavily pregnant with my 5th child. Baby looking to be another big one ie 9 pounds plus. Dh said to me yesterday that we should think about number 6 in the summer. I've always wanted a big family but has expecting me to think about another pregnancy when this one will still be tiny?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy Wed 07-Feb-18 16:53:26

Do you want baby 6 yet? If not, just tell him. Not sure what the issue is here?

GhostWriter666 Wed 07-Feb-18 16:54:20

Say "let's get this one out first and we'll discuss it again when I'm ready"

Busybeesbutt Wed 07-Feb-18 16:54:21

That he is unreasonable to expect me to get pregnant again when this baby will only be a few months old?

CoolGirlsNeverGetAngry Wed 07-Feb-18 16:54:34

Jesus. Talk about getting ahead of yourself!

toolonglurking Wed 07-Feb-18 16:58:37

You've already got a big family, do you really want another child after this one? Do you have space, can you afford it, and can your body manage it?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy Wed 07-Feb-18 16:59:31

Well, he's a bit presumptive! Maybe it's the way he worded it.

If he'd said 'Do you want to have a baby no. 6 at any point in the future?' would that have been better? PS: Congrats on No. 5!

Spartaca Wed 07-Feb-18 17:00:51

I'd actually be a bit angry tbh. You are not a baby factory, and each pregnancy takes its toll.

Myddognearlyatethedeliveryman Wed 07-Feb-18 17:06:04

Ask him which baby he will be up in the night with as you can't do both!

newyearsameme80 Wed 07-Feb-18 17:06:51

Wouldn’t it be nice to spend a bit of time focused on baby no.5 first? Does he think this makes him virile or something?

Passmethecakeplease Wed 07-Feb-18 17:09:38

What about you though? What do you want?

Being pregnant isn't a walk in the park and, IMO, isn't fun. It's ok for him, I guarantee he doesn't cut out certain food, drink and activities in sympathy for you because if he did he wouldn't use you like a baby making machine.

Lunde Wed 07-Feb-18 17:09:59

Do you want more children?

TolpuddleFarterOATB Wed 07-Feb-18 17:11:33

I'm not saying this applies to your DH, but I find myself suspicious of men who seem to like to keep their partners pregnant. I suspect it's a form of control in some cases.

Gazelda Wed 07-Feb-18 17:12:34

I'd be angry at him for that. It's as if he things your body's purpose is to produce babies. Which is fine, if was what you both want and so long as your health is a primary consideration.
What's the rush?

AdoraBell Wed 07-Feb-18 17:15:27

He can think about number 6,7,9,10,11 etc right now. You can concentrate on number 5 for as long as you want to, and if you decide 5 is enough children then tell him you won’t have another baby.

ToadOfSadness Wed 07-Feb-18 17:16:17

Tell him it's his turn next.

hadthesnip Wed 07-Feb-18 17:16:53

Its a good job that the country isn't already over populated & have plenty of space for a family of 7 already.

Its not for me to say how you should live you life just as long as you don't expect social security benefits / housing benefits & you & your husband earn enough to pay for them.

neveradullmoment99 Wed 07-Feb-18 17:19:32

Its a good job that the country isn't already over populated & have plenty of space for a family of 7 already.

Its not for me to say how you should live you life just as long as you don't expect social security benefits / housing benefits & you & your husband earn enough to pay for them.

What a horrible comment. You should be ashamed.

Wellfuckmeinbothears Wed 07-Feb-18 17:24:17

Wow...that is pretty presumptuous!

How do you feel, is this pregnancy going well? Do you have any health issues that make your pregnancies high risk? How are your labour/births? And mostly do you even want another baby after this one?! How old are your other dc?

I think its ultimately up to you as its your body. How much does your husband help out with the children you already have?

PoorYorick Wed 07-Feb-18 17:25:51

What do you want?

Lovemusic33 Wed 07-Feb-18 17:26:36

Does he think you are a baby machine? Tell him you want time to recover and then you will discus it. Spend time with baby number 5 and decide when you are ready.

BigBaboonBum Wed 07-Feb-18 17:29:22

Jesus, you’re not a baby making factory for him. How bizarre! Just have your baby and look after the ones you already have and then talk about it further down the line. Although after 5 babies I’d be keeping his penis well away!

Strokethefurrywall Wed 07-Feb-18 17:32:42

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TheNavigator Wed 07-Feb-18 17:33:17

Why do you keep having children? Is it a joint decision?

newyearsameme80 Wed 07-Feb-18 17:37:51

Would posters really think this was a great plan if neither parent worked? I’d be very surprised at that.

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