Well he can't control it can he so what was really the point? Does he do this regularly? If so I'd be inclined to get up to feed her rather than do it in bed. If not then it was probably a freak one off that will never happen again. I think yw a bit u.
You aren't being U in bringing it up. However your DH can't help what his body does when he is asleep. If this is likely to be a recurrent issue (i.e. not due to a one-off violent nightmare) then I'd suggest you not have the baby in your shared bed or make sure he is awake when baby is there. My sister had a similar issue and could knock you out in her sleep! She couldn't do anything to prevent it.
Hard to say without knowing how the conversation went really, if you were just telling him what happened then no you weren't being U but if you kept going on about something he had no control off then you were
A little bit. Unless you had something constructive to offer-like buying an arm chair to feed in or moving DD to her own room the only thing that would come if bringing it up would be making your DH feel bad. I know you are worried and it's normal to feel the need for comfort but your husband is also human and also needs to feel reassured. here you've just put your needs ahead of your husband's. Next time either find someone else to talk to or find a solution rather than dwelling on the problem. It's a perfectly normal mistake to make in marriage, most people do. but there is no reason to repeat it.
Has he seen the doctor? Has he been diagnosed with any sleep issues? There are sleep disorders that can cause this. I think there are treatments as well. If he hasn't been he should go to the GP and ask to be referred to the sleep clinic. It's not his fault but YANBU
This is the reason we have our own rooms, arms and legs flailing everywhere, turning violently and landing with a thud.
If it becomes a regular thing and there is no reason found after seeking advice please find another place to spend your nights, being bruised yourself is one thing but hurting your baby is something else.
YANBU to voice concern. YABU however if this isn't a one off and you keep letting your child sleep in the same bed as you both. A grown adult like yourself can likely take a sleep whack but a small child cannot.
He has thrashed out in his sleep before but it's the first time I've been hit. Apparently he was having a bad dream, someone was attacking me and the baby and he had to fight them to protect us. A little bit ironic really!
The baby doesn't sleep in our bed, we have a snuzpod so I stay in bed and just pick her up to feed during the night.
I also wasn't going on at him, we'd only been on the phone 2 minutes and it was the first time we'd spoken all day.
I guess by raising my concern I was looking for us to come up with a solution to make sure she is safe together. Upon reflection the simple answer is I protect her with my positioning, which hadn't crossed my mind when we spoke.